First, I know this doesn't necessarily belong in Random Thoughts, but I know more of you here than in any other forum, so I think I'd get better advice here. Second, I miss you guys! I have the opportunity to move to San Francisco with a guy, Mike, I've fallen in love with. We've only been dating since June, but we began living together just a few days after we met up again (Our first date was actually three years ago) because I got kicked out of the place I was living. (I moved out of his place two weeks ago and now live on my own.)He recently got hired at a new company and is moving from Michigan to California for his dream job. He wants me to come with him...and I don't do long distance relationships. I've done them before and I don't want to do it again. BUT...my best friend of five years, Omar, told me just after Mike and I got together that he is in love with me. Bear in mind that we attempted to have a relationship two times before, but he wasn't mature enough or ready for a relationship then. However, we've remained close friends throughout these times. I've been pursuing this relationship with Mike because of this specific reason AND because Mike and I have a really wonderful connection. But, I believe Omar is my soul mate. I've had dreams of my past lives recently and his energy was in each of them. He satisfies a lot of roles in my life and he knows me better than anyone. I love Omar dearly and don't want to lose him. I am honest with Omar about my feelings for Mike and he has been wonderfully understanding. I am at a crossroads...and this is where your advice is needed. Should I move across the country for the man I love after only really being together for just over two months? Should I stay and attempt another relationship with Omar? My life is never boring these days...
What will ya be doing out in SF? For me, from a pragmatic standpoint, I'd like to be doing school, working, raising kids, or something. .