parents a little rediculous?..

So i got busted for the first time yesterday and it is a lot worse then i thought it would have been. My mom wanted to completly shut me down, grounded for a long while. (this was just weed by the way) but she wanted me to tell my father. So when i told him he didnt show any hurt. I always thought ma mom was the cool hippy back in the day and my pops had a stick up his ass...maby i had it backwards. I digress. He sed hes disapointed and that hed talk to my mother about it

They came to the conclusion that i can kinda have my usual things, but quite limited to gain back their trust and all this. He told me to think about what i thought would be a fair thing to do about all aspects of my life (Driving, sleepovers, cell phone, TV ect...) and that we would have a family meeting on friday to discuss them and they would take what i said into considerstion. (this was all my father talking, my mom didnt say anything exept that it would be reasonable to fuck me over till i was 18...my dad stoped her there and told me to think on what he said) I now know relativly which parent has a more open mind/experience perhaps.

Either way i digress again, so i have givin a little thought into these things (not trying to be too outragious seeing as how theres no way im getting everything back at once) now heres my question...My mother used typical reasons not to smoke pot and all, and when other people said these things i usualy fought for my point of view and typically ended up winning. Would it be stupid to make any fight for my point? they wont just let me blaze again, but should i try? and if i should what would be the wisest things to say to not sound like 'Just another stoner kid' if you are a parent maby you understand better as to what they would be willing to hear...also personal stories related are welcome and apriciated, advice would be helpful, just sucks because this was lookin to be a great summer and now i cant do anything.

feels so weird not smoking ina week... lol i want ma bowl back

 

Your parents can't do anything to you. Honestly, are you kidding? Driving? Sleepovers? Cell phone? Television? Is that honestly all your parents can think of? I have experimented with many psychedelics and other drugs that my parents don't like at all. They know for sure I use them very often; I tell them. I don't give a damn what they think of me, how much they trust me, or what ''privileges'' they give me.

They can't physically stop you from walking to your dealers house and buying a bag of weed. Simple as that. And if they feel like getting the police involved, there's only one answer: it's called burying your stash in your yard. Smoking weed is the simplest thing when any form of authority is around. Go in the bathroom and blow the smoke out the window, roll a fat one and walk down the street with it, go behind some bushes, etc. Don't think of your parents as authority. Think of them as ordinary people as if you barely know them. That's all they are.

How'd you get caught anyways? You must have been in a pretty obvious place, I'm guessing.

 

Im mot sure how i got caught. one day i got home and all ma utensiles were layed out on the table with a very upset mother. Had a relativly good hiding place too...I also now have to put all my money earned in ma unaccesable bank account. So i cant just go buy my weed now. I am however getting quite a bit of 2ci soon and plan on using them during my summer time.

plus they now will be watching me carefuly. i fully intend on continuing my journeys for i have seen only good effects. however for the next two years i have to live in this house. Its just verry anoying now being around them. And i know it seems rediculous things they are taking from me,

 

Your parents are normal parents, of course they're going to get upset when they find their child is using drugs. It's going to take a long time to gain their trust back, so I'd say definitely quit smoking until everything has blown over. Trying to sneak around and smoke behind their backs probably won't help, and you will probably get caught again. Just be a good kid and I'm sure this will blow over quickly.

 

your parents just want whats best for you it sounds like. I love drugs, but if I had a kid who needed to be focusing on school and learning how to be a responcible, self-sufficent human being... I'd beat their fucking ass for smoking a jay. Of course I'd go and smoke it myself later, but

I'm 22 years old by the way

 

The best thing you can say is that you're sorry for disappointing them and you're going to try hard to build a good life for yourself so you can have a successful adulthood and earn back your privileges by being responsible, helping out around the house, etc. If you want to blaze up like a grown-up, pull your own weight without being asked. Mow the lawn for your folks. Vacuum the house. Work hard at developing a trade so you can be an independent adult. Then when you get caught blazing again, you're NOT a stereotypical stoner kid; you're just a responsible good kid that happens to smoke.

 

Dude, you didn't get busted, you barely even got caught.

Busted is handcuffed, in the squad car, hauled downtown and locked up while your parents get called to come bail your ass out. Got to trial, get sent away, have a juvee record, etc... That's fuckin busted.
You think they're dissapointed now, just wait until that happens. Try looking them in the eye then. Not to mention your Aunts, Uncles, Grandparents, school officals, friends parents, etc...
What you percieve as "innocent smoking" has some serious consequenses. You need to get over that "it's only weed" unless it's legal where you are.

Been there, done that and paid the price. It was not worth it.
Yeah, I'm an old ex Hippie, and I miss smoking a big doobie, but it's just not worth it in the overall scheme of things.

 

Yeah, parents tend to be protective. Even old stoner parents. When our daughter was your age we expected she would fall in with the "wrong crowd" (Ever see the "right crowd" of teenagers? ).

Anyhow we told her if she wanted to try smoking grass we would get her some home-grown from one of her uncles in the country. We also told her the truth that you don't know what you're getting on the street. (they were lacing grass with PCP back then ) She really never expressed an interest - maybe we spoiled the fun by being supportive instead of restrictive.

But, yeah parents get called in when their spawn goes astray, so you have to consider their vested interest in your dope smoking. Also, where were you getting it. They know the reality of drug buys - how quickly the wrong ppl can make them deadly places to be.

Your dad sounds cool. He prolly had more experience. I found out that my dad, a Southern Redneck used to smoke dope. They called it honky tonking in the '30s.

 

I was intending on at least stopping for the summer probably. Laying low for a while. I do need to do more around the house but its been hard with 5 herniated discs in my back haha. my mom made if feel like the end of the world for her (even though my sister also got caught when she was in highskool...she was grounded her entire senior year..im lucky? haha) i know theyr being how parents are...well some. A lot of my frends dont get in trouble when they get caught.

I am doing more now, and actualy i needed to get a few things sorted out so maby this isnt all bad. I just am so lost i dont know what to do because no one i know has got caught and in this much trouble before.

Is being a better kid and being patient really the best thing here? then when i get some liberties back just continuing...again im so lost in this mess. never thought id be the one who got caught...also thought having near strait A's in school would help a bit..

 

Oh also, heres a new thing that is freaking me a little bit. They are going through my texts from the company (assuming they have access to them) and i have soo many texts about shrooms, acid and dmt (personal favorites) and i told them i only smoked weed. This has been frieghtning me a little...im not sure if my mother has the competence to understand that acid is far less dangerous then crack (she compared it to weed...) not trying to be rude to my own mother, but she is definatly ignorent towards this scenario.

with these drugs come more room for a dealer giving you something thats...not what you orderd so to speak. so i could see that being a problem for them. this is just me sharing my thoughts, not really making a point. you all have helped me many times before and no one i know in person seems able to give advice on the subject. by the way to all thank you

 

Vacuuming the house won't make your discs more herniated. My pops has a fused spine and he runs every day.

And yes. Being a better, nicer, more responsible kid is the answer. I'm just old enough at 25 to know that much.

 

My parents came right out and told me that if they ever caught me with drugs my ass would be grounded untill I move out, and that they would never trust me again. They're really strict. (I'm 13)

If I had a kid and I knew they were on drugs I probably would be pretty pissed, not because I oppose drugs but because there are some pretty shady dealers out there and I wouldn't want my kid to get bad drugs or something. That and if he didn't listen I wouldn't bail his ass out of jail for free. He'd be paying me back

 

iv tryied vaccuming and it kills actually. the motions to twist and turn just hurt so bad. i cant even load the dishwasher without pain. i work through it usually...especialy since its my choise to not take the vicaden i was perscribed back in december when this all happened..

 

My parents told me they'd kick me out etc, luckily I was 21 and only back home briefly when they found out and it was like "I don't care about your opinion, give me my weed back or i'm taking your car".

If you're not 18 I wouldn't suggets this approach.
Just take the grounding, then go out and smoke weed anyway.

 

yeah dude is a bit different when ur older im 20 have a job and pay bills my mom knows i do weed. but i never do it around her or by her just have some repect for the folks and still get high on the down low

 

ya...he can run BECAUSE THEY FUSED HIS SPINE

 

the grounding isnt too bad. limits on everything, but not rediculous. i cant stil chil w/ ma frends whome they THINK are not into this 'shit'. got a chore list..daily kind of thing but its not bad. the big thing is not that i did it, its a trust problem they got now. they wont trust me. say all im doing is gaining trust back. They seem to think that the next time i get into trouble it will just be getting worse and worse.

A wile ago a cop drove past me and a frend of mine holding up a 'honk if your horney sign'. (we were in 6th grade) Then in 8th grade i got suspended for sexual harassment. which is BullShit because she was my girlfriend and sumone who recorded me talking/touching her on the bus sent it to someone who didnt like what they saw. So they told the principal and no matter what i said i couldnt get off it..regardless of the girl liking it/me. (she broke up with me a few days later)

So anyway i digress, now with this they think the next thing i do will be worse and il end up as a sad lonly fucker pretty much. this should prove an interesting summer..

 

also they are convinced i will do something worse and its a matter of time...not an 'if' thing. even though wen i smoke im not stupid about it...as far as stoners go i honestly think im one of the more responsible in my group of frends. and i dont intend on going much farther theni have in my journeys in drugs. and anything new (again) im not stupid about and i study up, am extremly careful, and do anything besides weed sparingly.

No logic like this would dit well with them so i didnt even try.

 

First off.. about your parents looking through your text messages. Why don't you just delete them?
And why do you think something else bad and worse is gonna happen to you? As long as you're staying out of trouble (which you should be since you already got busted) you won't get caught. This isn't as bad as you think. Your parents didn't call the cops on you or anything. Gain their trust back, maybe talk to them about pot, tell them you don't do it that much or something.

 

i think they can look at my text history online..they said they could and i havnt heard from anyone else that it is otherwise. and the think i only spent 30$ on it per month...lol

im staying out of trouble now, but the other things i have done could haunt me if they can actualy look at my old texts.