Okay, my boyfriend just broke up with me on Saturday because he caught me kissing another guy... it was a complete mistake, I was drunk and the guy came onto me... anyway, I was miserable and tried to get back with him last night and he said no. But, he still wants to be friends and we're going to Dallas with another couple in two weeks... we're going to meet some of his friends and go to six flags, etc... and then we're going to a smaller town a few hours away to meet the other girl's family and friends... anyway! He doesn't want to be with me except as friends... I met another guy on Sunday... the day after we broke up, and I said we can talk, but just take it slow... since my now-ex definitely doesn't want to get back with me, I decided to try to distract myself with this other guy... and he seems to be pretty cool. ( I want nothing to do with the guy I kissed.... blech... ) This new guy is cute, totally different from anybody I've dated before.. he's a country boy. But, how slow do I take it? Even though my ex and I aren't together, we still want to be friends... and I don't want his feelings hurt more... Any advice on rebounds and dating after ending a somewhat serious relationship? I still totally like my ex and am taking a break from him and his friends so I can change my mindset towards him...
I know you won't listen to me, but i don't think you should be with anyone until alot later once you've gotten over your ex. Through experience, i've found that in the end everybody gets hurt when u go out wiht a rebound person. You hurt your ex, coz you've just been telling him that you still like him and what u did was a mistake, and yet now you're going and getting with some other person anyway!! Then there's the guy you want to be with, you'l probably end up realising that you just like your ex anyway, he might even want you back and you've spoiled your chances by going out with this other guy, and then u dump him and hurt his feelings, THEN you probably do something with the new guy that you'll regret later because of your ex and for yourself, therefore hurting everyone, trust me i've done it twice and its bad. I think the best way is to just stay friends with both for a long time, i dont want to put time limits on these things though coz it really depends on you and the way your ex feels. at LEAST leave it like 3 or 4 weeks, not 3 or 4 days! Amanda
agreed next day rebounds are no good at all. give the man some time to recoup and don't expect him to take you back right away. give your ex at least a week before you consider the relationship finaly over.
Amanda's right. You should wait. If you're so ready to cut and run and date a new guy after you claim you're sorry your boyfriend broke up with you because you didn't mean to make out with this yechh guy... how much can you really be sorry, and how much can you really want to get back with your boyfriend? If I were him, and I found out you were even considering starting to see a different guy, I'd be like, "Well, I sure was right to ditch that wench for cheating on me!" and I would try to not give you another thought. What's he supposed to think when you "tried to get back with him" but then so soon afterward were just like, "Okayyy, next!" That'd be a clear signal to him -- and fair of him to assume -- that you are NOT so into being back together. And you're apt to hurt a new guy if you find yourself fooling around with your ex some time in the near future. If you really honestly do want to get back with your ex, why not just ease off guys period for a while. You know, guys can't stand girls who are like never without a boyfriend, always findin' someone new right after a breakup... That brands a girl, you know? Blue skies, -Jeffrey
Hey I remember you from the other thread lol. Everyone dissed you out pretty bad, including myself. I dont blame them or me at all though. Not to be a dick or anything, but cheating sucks ass and I hate people that do it, so I really have no advice for you, as to much emotion is going to be mixed with it. All I have to say is goodluck. Edit: Ah, here we go: http://www.hipforums.com/forums/showthread.php?t=18073
I agree with every point made, but also 1 more thing in your defence though. Any sane bloke would have forgiven you for that slip up within a day or 2 or even straight away if he truly loved you. But on the other hand, you was pretty fast to try someone else instead of letting him calm down + get over it. But as is all said, its a 2 way street + with some it can take time to get over stuff like that + you could consider that your 1st test on that particular relationship on how much you both really did love eachother. + like, if it happened so that you found that new nice cute guy, then so be it, a blessing in disguise, or is it from the frying pan into the fire? Who knows.
take it as slow as u want. keep yourself comfortable. but u need to get over the ex. take a long moment to think of the relationship as a whole, how it ended and accept it. then you're free to go
I don't think you're taking your ex very seriously. It seems you dont really care, even though you say you do. If you kissed another guy knowing that you were with your boyfriend and would go away with him, etc, if you blame it on the booze, you're not being very clever. Now you say you like this new guy, well, it looks pretty clear that you'll use him to distract yourself while you try to get over your boyfriend rejecting you. that's not very nice and you may end up confused. To be honest I dont think you take relationships very seriously, fair enough, but soon you'll feel bored and will want something new...who knows? If i were you, i'd stay away from guys for a while and get myself together. If you want to have fun, go and have fun but dont go hurting people's feelings.
wow... i feel like shit. drewbee, I went to that site you left for my last forum... I seriously do not even remember typing that post... it was 5:55am and I must have still been drunk... uggh... well, lots of thinking to do...
Now THATS to the point . People do do silly things when they are drunk as even I do lol. So forgiveness can be given + lessons learned B.T.W, doesn't anyone check their user CP?
A lot of U seem so young, but quite wise . But, ok, what happens after 14 years of marrage + knowing eachother for 16-17 years + it comes down to like.. Each partner not being able to live in eachothers countries ? + like, its partners from the opposite sides of the planet? Each partner loves eachother, but can NOT live in eachothers countries? Or anywhere else? Depressing aye ? . + Esp if eachother has spent 24/7 with eachother. I.E only about 3 hours a week apart from eachother when 1 returns a lent car. HC
Trust me - after you break up with someone, you can be a total ass. I already went through that stage. I'm sorry your relationship ended from that mistake. Just beware of relationships right after a break-up. Oh, and I LOVE YOU!!! You can spell definitely!!!
