I've been with my current partner for just on a year now. Things seem like they're on the rocks and we just don't seem to be getting on that well; constantly fighting and never seeing eye to eye etc. Now I know love was never meant to be a smooth ride but I believe it was never meant to be this much of a struggle either. I'm very unhappy in this relationship and I have been so for some time now. I'm thinking of leaving but the one thing holding me back is that I now feel obligated to "be in love" with this guy and don't have it in me to end things. (I've tried on numerous occasions) I'm sick of the bickering. I just want us to be happy and function normally again. We both deserve that.. even if it is only gained by being apart. Walking around with a heavy heart and mind really is the pits. I'm not really sure why I am posting here. Am I looking for advice? I'm not sure. Perhaps I just needed to get that out of my head. You need to purge your mind of things every now and then to make space for new things to zoom around up there.
IF you feel obligated, then is it really "love" or is it "tolerance"? It kinda sounds like you're not truly in love with him. If that's the case, then don't string him along in a loveless relationship. You're both suffering here and it doesn't do either of you any good to continue things if the love between you isn't there. That being said, even if yuo ARE in love with him, is love truly enough? I do think it's the most important aspect of a relationship, but is it enough? Sometimes it's not. You have to decide whether or not it is for you. You deserve a chance at a loving relationship, and so does your boyfriend. The question isn't whether you two should keep the relationship going, but can you two be happy together? Ask yourself that question and ask your boyfriend. That's all I have to say at this point. I hope you find happiness in whatever decision you make. Mono
It could possibly be a breakdown in communication. When your in love, you become somewhat blind to things. At first you both shared some interests just because you are infatuated with the guy so you end doing a lot of things together for the sake of love. From past experience as time goes on, usually around the year mark, I notice that some things that I did with my partner I started to realize "I don't really like to do this". So there a drop in interest level. This is why it's very important that you truly know and enjoy what your partner really likes, because as a relationship goes on, having some common interests is very important. It's the adhesive to your love.
