My partner and I have been together for a year now. When we first started out our relationship was pretty hot. Now we haven't had sex in over a month. I'm so bored! I have to get myself off all the time now. I don't even have any desire for him anymore and I think he feels the same way. The thing that makes this even more of a bummer is that I'm pregnant and we plan on staying together and we do love each other but now its become more of a best friend thing. So we have got to find a way to get through this before I go nuts. How do you force yourself to be attracted to someone again? Even when we were sexually active he wasn't a very exciting lover (went down on me maybe twice!) Arrgh, I'm so frustrated.
Wow... that is sad... Counseling? You need a mediator to start some dialogue between each other. You are so young too... Sex should come natural to you both! Good luck with this. I admire you for sticking with this for the baby. It's at least worth taking a shot. But don't stay with him if neither of you are happy. Your baby will see this.
Well, you probably shouldn't have gotten knocked up. If you don't dig the guy, you don't dig him. If you've told him to try something new and he hasn't, and you've tried to do new stuff... It's over and you now have a baby daddy. Congratulations.
wow i must say..ive seen what u look like & forgive me for saying but your fairly easy to desire.. i think perhaps its the pregnency the hormones & perhaps hes just not very attentive sexualy.. but maybe theres deeper things going on? i mean if a guy doesnt love goin down on the girl he loves it says alot about something.. have u asked why?
Yeah, I'd say couples' counselling- I think it's worse to stay together if you don't love each other or feel that connection anymore, because it'll make life much less pleasant for you, him, and your baby Growing up in a house without love? Not my idea of a great childhood; I'd rather grow up going to two different houses to see my folks, personally. But I would 100% recommend counselling, since at least you have the chance to rekindle your relationship and talk things out. I doesn't sound like you're too far gone yet, you can probably work things out! But if it doesn't end up working out, all my love and good vibes are with you, sister! At least you gave it a shot!
Pregnancy tends to do that to people. After my wife got pregnant, sex life was over. Son is now 4 and sex life still is VERY boring. Not muich fun at all. I know you want to have 2 parents for the kid, but in the long run, would 2 famillies be better than watching you two argue incesantly about sex and possibly infidellity?
Sorry to hear that...maybe try new things to get his arousal...I am a guy and if my lady jumped on me I would be like whooo hooo!
Well thanks for the advice, counselling is definitly out of the question. We're struggling financially. Another bit of stress on our relationship. He has felony warrants and can only get an under the table job because he's in a state that could extradite him.. which sucks! Right now we're living on my tiny income and its pretty rough. But anyways, no matter what happens we're gonna stick it out, we do love each other even if the passion has faded. Hopefully when things get less stressfull we can work a bit more on our relationship.
Amber, You hormones from being pregnant are not a big help for sure, but it sounds like you are trying to make the best of a difficult situation. People can give you all different kinds of advice on what to do, but the best advice I can give you is......Listen to your inner guide and I am not talking about your heart and mind, but your higher self. This is the voice that is never wrong and will always lead you in the path of least resistance in life. I have many times went against my inner voice and listened to my heart. Sometimes the heart is not to smart, but that higher self knows all. You know what you need to do deep down and your heart/ego is looking for ways to justify what you already know. I am sending love and light energy to you. Also get some quiet time to yourself under a tree to clear your mind. Peace and love to you, RT
you got to do whats gona make you happy. a baby is not a good reason to have a bad relationship.its an excuse,if you really are not happy, move on with your life
