I have been in a very healthy relationship for about a year and a half now. We share an apartment, and we're both in our early twenties. We don't fight often, and we compliment each other and appreciate each other. My problem is: I have zero interest in sex. When we got together, I would want to have sex once or twice a day...now we have sex once or twice a month. I know it bothers him, and I really want to make him happy, but I just lack overall interest COMPLETELY. I have zero interest. Nadda. Nothing. I never get horny. Before I got with him, I was very active and I used a vibrator every night. Now, nothing. I have no desire. I'm only 20 years old...so this just seems very unnatural! I'm on birth control, but I've been on this birth control for years. I just don't know WHAT it could be
Honestly, I have the same problem...so I'm not much help. Are you under a lot of stress lately? Or is there a lot on your mind. I know I do, but not sure if that's part of it or not.
I'm not under as much stress as I have been through other phases of this relationship. I have started a new type of lifestyle, though. I exercise 6 days a week for about 45 minutes and I have adopted a healthier diet, even venturing into vegetarianism very recently...but not recent enough for the vegetarianism to be any of the cause. If anything, the newer, healthier, lifestyle would enable me to be more APT to have sex, so I just don't get it.
You could speak to someone like a counsellor, or someone who understands. Maybe someone on here can recommend you to someone.
maybe you two aren't right for each other. things should be amazing on all aspects. I highly doubt there is no man anywhere that you do not want to have sex with.
Yeah, stress is a real killer all right. But then again some kinds of stress bring on that frenzy... I think the problem is that you're too peaceful together. You don't fight? No play fighting either? Was it always this way even from the start? If not, what used to get you two going before you flat-lined? If it truly does seem strange to you and there's no great stress involved in your life right now, maybe do see a doctor about your hormone levels. It's ridiculous how sex must play such a large role in relationships but if the change was very drastic in only a span of a year and you're curious about what's going on, get it checked out.
Talk to your doctor. You may need to switch your BC pills to a different hormone level. Best of luck!
