Hello all, This post is me finally reaching out to others after separating from my wife almost two years ago. I have been quite isolated since then and am now ready to move forward since the depression is becoming quite crippling. I am 32 years old and I met my ex-wife 10 years ago through a mutual friend. We dated for 4 years and were then married. She recently left town to work for the National Park Service and appears to be very happy there. I guess I was not really ready to accept that this woman will not be my life partner and that I have to say goodbye. She is the most beautiful and sweetest girl I have ever seen. Unfortunately, she was the victim of sexual abuse as a child. I will be posting sub-topics about this relationship as I need to finally share my experiences with others. My first objective will be to re-develop my friendships and feel comfortable socially. I am interested in finding a new life partner but am not interested in raising children that are nt my own. I realize that at 32 I have limited options but I am finally ready for healing. Thanks for reading.
__________________ 50% percent of first marriages, 67% of second and 74% of third marriages end in divorce, according to Jennifer Baker of the Forest Institute of Professional Psychology in Springfield, Missouri. I was divorced in my mid 20's. As I got older it became less significant if the woman I dated had children. A "family" is a setting which provides a sense of security for everyone. As you move through life single it becomes a point of admiration toward those who have managed to maintain a family. When you love a woman, you also manage to love the children who are part of her. I will admit because I grew up with a stepFather and had stepBrothers, there is a difference in the emotions contained in parents struggling to manage the divergence of personalities in their children. However, I believe it better to have a family of adults, male and female, than to struggle with lifes problems armed only from a single parent or single gender point of view. I don't think it makes much difference the number of adults in a childs development as long as there is a variety of interactive play between the sexes. Most children who grow into adults do not spend their intimate lives among a homosexual confinement. It is best to experience how the sexes interact to become a productive adult in a marriage setting. I expect I might stir disfavor with those homosexuals on this forum. But, unless you expect your children to anticipate homosexual behavior in their sexual interactions in their adult lives, they will get no other input outside the family. You might suggest all that is required is a loving attitude; however, love is defined by experience. Thomas
If a man you wish to be, then a man you shall become. But you must wish hard and true. I lend you my sword, my shield and my bow.
Whoa. Those figures surprise even me. I`ve also heard that 50% of people who stay married report to being unhappily married, but my sources are anecdotal. Anyway, congratulations to the OP! :biggrin:
