Hi — I’m (24F), Arab, femme, and queer. I’ve known I’m into women since I was a teenager, and have had a few relationships with girls back in school, but I’ve spent the last few years avoiding that part of myself. I grew up in a religious Muslim household where marriage — specifically to a man — is considered the ultimate goal. I stuck to that expectation for a long time, trying not to disappoint my parents, trying to convince myself I could stay in that box. But I’m done. I don’t want to lie to myself anymore. I don’t want to choose relationships that drain me just because they’re "acceptable." I haven’t been with a woman in a long time, and I’ve been scared to try again. I’ve seen horror stories, and I don’t want to hurt anyone if I’m still figuring things out. I also feel a little confused about how to be with women again. I used to present more masc, but I’ve grown into a very femme identity, and now I find myself drawn to masc women — especially ones who are emotionally grounded, soft domme vibes i guess? So I’m here asking: If you’re a femme who got back into dating women after a long time — how did it go? If you’re a masc woman, what do you look for in femmes who may be exploring again? Is it okay that I’m not 100% sure what role I want to play in a relationship yet? Any general advice for someone coming into this space again — more honest, but still a little nervous? I’m not new to being queer — but I’m finally being open about it, and I’d love any insight from others who’ve been there. Thanks so much
