Sorry up front for the long post. I have been with my gf for just over 3 years now. I got accepted to a school with 2 friends, so me my gf and 2 buds are gonna move out this summer. About a month ago she decided to move in with her step brother to "help him pay rent" which is fine. I hang around their place a decent amount and EVERY night he has like half a dozen people over and they only hang around to roll on e and have a place to crash. I totally trust my gf but lately she'll tell me stories how she and a friend of her brother's fell asleep on the couch or they all went to another friend's hot tub and shit. This never bothered me cuz i know they are her friends. Last night they all decided to drink pretty early so i left cuz she said she was tired ect. This morning i go to her house to see if she wants to eat with me, her bro is at work and everyone is gone but her. I happen to see a pair of shoes that i know is one of her bros friends then i see his jacket which isn't unusual because he basically lives there but the thing is that the apartment has a living room and a bedroom (hers) he wasn't in the living room. It looked as if she had slept on the couch which i bet is what happended but still this dude is sleeping in her bed!!! Anyhow she fell asleep while i was over (lame) so i just left. Just wanted some opinions/advice...i am totally not the jealous type at all but i don't know about this....
I hate to say it dude, but I think there is something this girl wants, needs and is possibly looking for. What I would do in this situation is stand back and let her come to you, after first delivering her some flowers or something. You know, she'd probably come back in a day or two laughing and saying silly things like, "oh are you jealous?" "do you think I'd cheat?" or "you're such a dag." The whole thing is you have to have a clearer picture of how badly she needs to speak to you. If I was in your situation, I'd be paranoid as. But with three years under your belt, it shouldn't be too much of a worry. The horrible truth is that everyone has the desire to screw left right and centre.
At that age I would imagine she just wants to party and be social, but may not intend to do anything sexual. The thing is, in situations like this, that CAN happen. I think she is in a situation that will definitely try your patience and affect your relationship even if nothing happens. I have to admit I would be totally concerned if I were in your shoes, and I would definitely have a talk with her about how it is affecting you. From that conversation you can then decide if you want to accept things or not. No reason to fly off the handle yet, but I would sure talk to her about this before it escalates.
