normally I brush it off and it doesn't even phase me but lately it's been anoying me to no end. two days ago a staff said that all women who are married shouldn't work (not women with kids just any wman who is married) and than yesterday he told a joke about how women shouldn't drive because there isn't a road fromt he bedroom to the kitchen. this guy claims to be christian and all that yet he once made a comment to me after I lost this stupid made up dictionary game about getting on my knees-which I wrote him u0p for. well he;s gotten promoted and I'm still over him but not directly over him so he's being a prick. and than I fucked up at work the other day and the guy who's filling in for my boss percedes yesterday to talk to me like a five year old the conversation starts 'I have to give you a failing grade for yesterday'. this guy has hated me ever since I went away for work with my boss in july and he does everything in his power to make my job tough and than kisses ass to my boss so he just thinks he's soooo mild mannered and sweet. naturally I am a very submissive person in my personal relationships but at work I expect to be treated like an equal. I went to school worked hard-harder than the men I work with who besides my boss none of them hold degrees and it's not fair that because of my gender I have to put up with shit.
He's probably intimidated by you, and secretly feels inferior... So he trys to act like hes better, and force you to submit whenever possible...
"Than yesterday he told a joke about how women shouldn't drive because there isn't a road fromt he bedroom to the kitchen." ahahahahahahahahaha. That is funny, but I don't think his attitude is. It sucks that you have to deal with it, but each comment should make you happier instead of sadder. Every time he says something about how "women shouldn't work", just ask him if it makes the competition too hard or if he just feels outright "useless" compared to women. To me all it says is that he's jealous because appearantly women(or atleast you) in that place are doing better than he is. I, personally, would rather work with men, but for a woman boss. They're generally more task oriented, and more open to suggestion and change in leadership roles, but as co-workers I feel there is too big a difference in thought processes to be effective as a team....depending on the type of job of course. By the way, this is the type of guy that I felt I was being labeled as the other day, which is why I argued the point.
I know and I'm sorry I looked back I did jump on you first. Ya the joke was hilarious and if he just told the joke and never mentioned his views on women working I would be fine with it all. He is insecure because he knows he doesn't deserve to be where he is this guy got promoted over women there who have college degrees have been working for the company for years ect. He comes in for 6 months and one year of school and because he kisses ass he gets promoted. I kiss ass and because I'm a woman it's seen as being weak.
haha yea that joke is funny. but, seriously, what he is doing is prolly illegal. just think about that and if i were you, id do something about it.
oh and than yesterday the guy who is filling in for my boss his fly was down and the receptionist made some comment and I covered my ears and said nooo don't wanna hear it and this guy said take it easy grow up a little. because I don't wanna here about the anatomy she has seen I am supposed to grow up how about I just don't want to hear the details of every single guys member
I want to move up in the company as a whole though-it's nationwide. and if I get labeled as someone who stirs up shit i won't
oh and another woman and I went to this woman who handles all the pr for the club and is right there with the cpo and complained and she said 'well it's a male dominated company and sometimes you just have to let men be men if you want to move ahead, I got where I am by going along with the men in this company'
We both know we were guilty as hell, no need to apologize. I think the college degree argument is somewhat null. A buddy of my dads makes $75k a yr w/o even a GED as a network analyst/supervisor type person in Florida and they actually found him. I think if a person is good enough at what they do to justify giving them the job they should get it. I do think though that people with degrees should be paid a percentage more because of the extra time, effort, and money spent. If merit and seniority were overlooked, then there are ways of 'removing' people from positions discretely and professionally. Do others think he does the job justice, or is he fairly widely disliked?
I think that's closer to what she meant. You don't get ahead by letting people walk on you. That's rediculous and she sounds like the kind of person who should only be driving to a kitchen.
well really only shit talk with one other person there because the only reason I've seen someone get fired there is for gossiping (they were women who complained about the way they were treated by this guy) and although this guy isn't my supervisor he coordinates the programs together and is like my bosses assistant. also I didn't mention this but when I first started this guy asked me if I wanted to grab a drink and I turned him down so I don't know if it's that or the whole jealous that I do so much with my boss or what it is. oh and he has no experience in this field except for the time hes worked at this company and college isn't for everyone but he has no experience and no college besides a year
sounds like he's suffering from a well rounded case of "sour grapes", both personally and professionally. Hope things get better around there. I hate when people make me dislike showing up to a job that I actually like.
