My sister hates me

Seriously.

I cover up for Alaina all the fucking time, but when I ask Alaina one fucking question, she has to scream at me. Like 10 minutes ago, I asked her why she was driving Mom's car to pick me and a friend up from the movies and her reply was "Why the fuck not?!" I seriously need to get out of this fucking house and away from her. I love her to death because she's my sister , I'd die for her, but jesus fucking christ! You don't need to scream the anwser to a simple question in my ear.

I just really wish she could fucking respect me. It's like no matter what i fucking do for her, it's not good enough. All I have wanted in life is to make my older sister proud, and no matter what I do, my best isn't good enough to make her proud. When i was in elementry school, the only reason I would study as hard as i could to get an A on my spelling tests was to hear Alaina tell me "Good Job" when i got them all right. But somewhere alone the way, she just kinda forgot of me as a sister and more of a slave. I cover up for her all the time and i hardly hear her say thank you or i owe you. Fuck, i get grounded for her and she just says "how long am i grounded?"

She just doesn't care anymore. At all. And when she tells her friends to call the house and if she isn't there her " secretary " will take care of it. That's all I am to her. A fucking secretary. I just answer phones and leave messages for her. And if I do the littlest thing wrong she starts screaming at me. And when she tells me that I don't even fucking know her, that just pisses me off so fucking much. i am her little sister, ever sense I was 5 , all I have wanted was her to be proud of me and to grow up to be just like my big sister. I have watched her every move sense I was 5. I know her better than anyone else one earth.

I'm tired of how she treats me.
i've given her a note before.
All this shit in it too, but it doesn't change anything.
She still treats me like shit.


She might even read this and start bitching at me saying shit like "i do too say thank you" and then she'll fucking start bitching at me for the rest of my fucking life because I said something true.

i'm tired.
Tired of trying to make her proud.

 

sisters are bitchy.


I have 2.

 

Quit doing favors for her, if she doesn't appreciate it then why do it?

How much older is she than you? Sometimes older sibs have a stigma about their youngers... maybe she'll get over it???

 

I have 2 too. Lindsay is awesome, not bitchy like Alaina

 

almost 2 years

 

What you said about making her proud: I used to feel the same about my older sis (5 and a half years older). I wanted to be just like her. Not saying my sister is terrible or was a bitch to me or anything growing up, because she's not and she wasn't anything like what you're describing your sister as, but as I got older I realized she was NOT the person I wanted as a role model. I quit trying to please her and just started being myself.

 

It's hard to let go of her because she is my hero. I can't really explain it

 

Me too. I definitely get along better with Therese than Abby; she's my best friend.
Me and Abs get along though, especially now that we only see each other a few times a year. She's just so shallow... that's what gets me. For a 26 year-old she should have a little more depth. But she's a gold-digging botox wanting perfect wife being etc...
But I love her and she doesn't really bother me. We just can't have political conversations or talk about anything that matters. :tongue:

 

I can't talk to her about anything at all, or she starts bitching.
Oh wait, unless we talk about her fucking her boyfriend, then she doesn't bitch

 

That's exactly the way I felt about Abby when I was your age.
She was perfect in the way she dressed, the way she acted, the way she looked. She was talented and smart. At least that's how I felt about her then. Then I saw how she was on the inside.

You don't have to let go of your sister, though. I just meant don't let her use you. You don't have to cover for her (though I think that is what a good sister should do, and you do seem like a good sister. ). And maybe after a few weeks of that she'll see how really useful you've been and respect you more.
I think once you both are older maybe you'll get along better. But that's just my 2 cents, I really don't know anything, these are just my experiences.

 

What does she bitch about?

 

thanks hun

 

Well I didn't really do anything....

I was thinking maybe you could talk to her about it. Just tell her what you told me. That would be good advice, right? I should have told you that first thing, but I'm terrible at giving advice. :tongue:

 

Anything and everything she can
Like if I had my shoes in the corner of the living room, she'd have to bitch at me about that. Evene when it has nothing to do with the conversation!

 

It seems like older sibs think their younger ones can't do anything right. Maybe deep down they're worried their younger sibs are making wrong decisions and get so frustrated they yell at you, even about tiny things. I'm guilty of it, but then I'm obsessive and I also freak about Therese leaving her things in the wrong place. She usually tells me if I make her feel bad, and I apologize. I don't want to make her hurt.
I'm not saying your sister's right. If you have any siblings older than her I'm sure they feel the same way about her.
I'm not saying either of you are stupid or making wrong decisions.
But people learn as they grow, including you, your sis, me and even parents, and others need to patient with them.
Sorry if I'm being too preachy.

 

your not being preachy

 

yknow how they talk about the terrible twos?
16 is WAY worse

 

OOOhh the "I am the adult dont have to answere to no one teen syndrome" Gotta love that almost 18 age. It starts just after turning 16 like a home run stretch to being an adult. Then there is just the plain "I am older than you sibling bs" Yes I am older than you so I am in charge and I ask the questions and tell you what to do!

My sister was 5 years older than I was and let me tell ya she would scream, yell and knock the shit out of me. That ended when I was 12 and she was 17. I am sure you knocking your sister out cold would likely not be as effective as it was for me but after she woke up called me a bastard a few times we got along great. She never bossed me around again.

 

I would, but i would be grounded for like 3 months

 

the good of the cause, sometimes the outcome might be worth it^