I really need everyones help.. i have an ex that i just broke up with a month ago for a very good reason.. she lied to me.. she led me to belive that she was 18.. wrong.. she is only 16.. as soon as i found this out i talked to her about it cuz i dont think she understands the law and what could have happend like i do.. i told her that we could still be friends just nothing more.. and we will see where things went.. now dont think that it was forgive and forget.. i was watching her every move and listening to every word cuz she kept lying to me.. about small stuff but a lie is a lie.. Now here comes the fun part.. a mutual friend between the both of us approched me yesterday and says that this girl has been saying all this shit that ive been calling her non-stop saying that im gonna rape her and that my friends and i are gonna show up and rape her and kick her ass.. 1 i would never ever do that 2 ya i did call her but it was to say hi how was your day.. nothing even remotely close to what this chick said.. now im not worried about this getting back to people i know cuz they would all say ya ok bullshit.. but im worried about this getting back to people that dont know me that well and this ruining my name.. now my question is.. do i confront her parents and tell them what really went on and what is going on now.. do i just confrong her?.. or do i let it go.. but fuck that i dont want to let it go... HELP! PLEASE! thanks
Shit this isnt good Did you sleep with her? If you didnt then its better for you, you should really talk to her but make sure there is another person there as well (just to make sure) Ask her to stop it and then leave her alone and dont see her again, she may have problems but dont make her problems your problem!!!!!
Pyscho deffinitly... but let it go.... be a grown up or something ??? though judging by your sig.. it might be a little hard to be 'grown up' hehehehe sorry.
You seem like a sweet guy. Just go with your gut and I would avoid confronting her parents unless she continues to act like a 5 year old. Likely she's in shock now just as much as you are. To cease any emotional attachment just from finding out she's younger than what you thought, may be a big blow and she doesn't yet understand how her age might affect the both of you (by law). I don't think it's really possible to stop caring right away so don't feel like a pedophile or something horrid for caring about her as you used to. Remember she's still the same girl who captivated you from the start, yes? Let's just say it could be much more difficult if she was younger than 16. You did try to treat her like an adult but that did not work after the rumours. If she continues to behave this way and her whole family is concerned you might want to confront her parents directly. Clear it up between them though keep in mind they might be more likely to believe their daughter rather than the guy who broke their daughter's heart. It only sounds to me she needs some growing up to do. I'm sorry you found yourself in this situation - hopefully you'll be more wary in the future. If anything take care of yourself now. 1) she broke your trust and 2) she's hurt you with unkind and untrue words. Try to let go of the wrongs because she probably doesn't know how hurtful they are, but don't let yourself in this situation again. You might find that the only way to heal yourself is to remove yourself from the situation completely. Again, don't feel like a monster for doing so but tell her in one way or another why you have to go. There must be closure. At least closure offered. If she throws it out of the window in a tantrum, maybe one day she will be able to pick it up and understand. It's not impossible to stay friends and to keep caring, if only the latter more so than the former. I believe if you care about her, you'll do the right thing (whatever that may be). Most of all, don't forget about yourself. Truly, all the best.
run away, run far far away well, avoid her as much as you can. I wouldn't confront her about it... maybe at the most send her an email in which you sound very level-headed, saying you've heard that she's spreading some false stories/ rumour about you and asking her politely to stop. Don't blame, don't say it's her fault you guys broke up, just ask her to stop with the rumours. But don't call her up - with the email you can reread what you wrote, remain level headed, not get caught up in the moment and say the wrong thing
Actually im the most mature person i know.. and my sig and everything else is being goofy.. cuz hell thats me.. i appreciate all your advice i really do.. ive been hurt by both of my parents before really bad so its hard for me to trust people and im one of those poeple who ususally doesnt give second chances.. so this is hard for me.. i dont want to be the asshole to say fuck you bla bla bla.. i did.. did.. like this girl but lying is something i just can see is an OK thing.. im also one of those people who atleast has to say something.. im very careful in the fact of not letting my temper get out of hand and im very level headed.. so this is a lesson for me.. fuck it next time im just gonna ask for a licence.. lol.. but seriously.. thanks for all the help
With some girls, sometimes i think that these days, the word "rape" is teh girl's favorite word! why? here are some reasons 1. Attention. What better way to make people feel sorry for you and pay attention to you? 2. Crutch. Girls know that men in the past have raped girls before and now they use it as an excuse for everything. It's like when some types of groups throw out the word "racism", even though they stole the other persons car, clearly. 3. Greed/Revenge. See your story It seems like certain people of certain groups shame their own minority. It's not fair to teh other women who really have been tragically raped or victims of other crime when there are other females throwing out the word rape for reasons above. And on top of that, has anyone ever heard a well-to-do african american talk about how retarded other blacks are who loosely throw out the word racism? I couldn't agree more with them. But speaking of loose, anyone hear from alliecat lately?
Judging by your first post..you do seem mature.. probably more mature than myself. I was only kidding [as i'm sure you realised]. Maybe your maturity is what is getting you in such a state over this.. clearly your ex is imature [or is acting that way]..and you wish to deal with it in a mature fashion. When both those worlds collide..it's imho a mess awaiting to happen. In your case has happened.. Do you think aside from her rhetoric..she could talk honestly and maturely about this ?.. maybe she is confused, herself ?.. i dunno. Anyhoo... i hope things work out.. even if that means no further relationship with her..merely 'moving on'.. please don't beat yourself up about it [well not for another month anyway].. If you're worried what strangers think of you..when not actually talking to you ..or getting to know you.. then don't be [concerened/worried] imho.. they are not worth it. Let us all know how things work out..
well im gonna be calling her tommrow after she gets out of school so she cant hide behind her family like she has been doing.. this is gonna be very interesting.. i just hope she doesnt deny everything and spread more shit.. which is what im expecting to happen
I dunno, I'd talk to her parents. That's what you do when you have a problem with a small child But seriously. For one, it's best to talk to them and say she's spreading shit and explain the truth BEFORE the rumors get back to them about you threatening her. And two, it's a fun way to embarass the hell outta her without having any way it can be logically construed as being such.
why would he talk to her parents? if they were going out im sure the parents would frown upon this, giving his age. And for the chick, shes just a ****, plain and simple. Just stay the fuck away from her, that way you never have to deal with her childish bullshit.
Actually i met both her parents and they absolutely loved.. they knew how old i was cuz they asked.. and they didnt say anything like or your too old for he and they didnt tell me she was 16.. when i met them i was still under the impression she was 18.. which would have been fine in my book
hahahahaha very true.. i bet some have thought that about me .. but thats life.. people see others differently [obviously]...
Well i called her and asked her if she knew what slander was.. i told her what i herd about what she said.. and i also told her that i have ears everywhere.. and i will find out if she says anything else.. she denied everything which is what i expected.. so hopefully its over.. and i feel better now.. everyone is happy for me that i confronted her
Good for you! Hopefully it is all over. I don't know why girls can be like that...they make all of us look like a bunch of psychotic bitches...
