So i have posted in here about my mom before . Theres no such thing i can really say about her really. Shes just negative VERY opinionated and snotty - leave it to her to say tha last word and make her feel good to say no you know your wrong that doesn't look right that colour nag nag nag Well yesterday i had such a awesome conversation w/ her on MSN we live 8 hrs away from eachother. I'm going to school in Sept, my 3rd semester i'm working and i have step kids. Talking about school was great UNTIL i brought up "oh btw she'll be 12 in a few days" You just wait till that know it all stage comes around, and the parents are the assholes and the grandparents are even worse. It will hit you a good one considering what you did to me and your father" i was lke WHAT? WTF is this nutbar talking about? ALL children are different? So, she id at the " i know it all stage, aren't all kids, BUT if my mom didn't put me in the predictament she put me in when i was little maybe i wouldn't have acted out. Living with her my dad my grandma. No wonder my emotions were screwed. Then i tried to tell her in a different MSN convo ya we are going to adopt in 10 yrs shes like shoot me in between the eyes and call me dead . i'll be gone by than anyways. How would/ or anyone answer to that ? That hurts a whole lot . I know i can either accept or not accept , But man shes testy. When i'm busy here she'll be on msn like what are you ignoring me or you just not there whats going on?
Sounds Like You've Had A Strained Relationship With Your Mother At Best; A Lot Of Mother/Daughter Relationships Are Like That. I Had That Same Kind Of Relationship With My Own Mom--It Seemed Like No Matter What I Did, There Were Always Little Remarks, Little Negative Comments, And Her Disaproval Of Me And My Life Was Everpresent-And Then One Day, It All Changed. Truth Of The Matter Is, You Have Two Options. Seems There Are Still Unresolved Feelings And Resentment From Your Past, And You Can Either Deal With Whatever Those Are And Also Express To Your Mom That Certain Behaviors, Comments, Etc. Hurt You, And Then Try To Work It Out And Heal From It, And Maybe Concrete A Better Relationship With Her In The Future, Or You Can Choose To Realize That All People Are Different; And Perhaps That Is Just Your Mother's 'Way' Of Being. Think About This And Then Ask Yourself, Why Do I Let This Get To Me??? Every Time She Is Too Critical, Negative, Or Judgemental, Just Let It Go....Because Really, Now That You're An Adult With Your Own Life And Family, What Good Does It Do To Internalize Her Negativity? Everyone In This Life Goes Through Their Own Journey, With Unique Feelings, Thoughts, Intentions, And So On. I Clashed With My Own Mother Until Three Years Ago, When I Was 24 Years Old. Then The Day It All Changed, Which I Mentioned Earlier, One Very Simple Thing Happened. I Took A Step Back And Realized That Whether I Agreed With Or Understood The How And Why Of Her Attitudes And Behaviors, She Was My Mother, And The Only One I Was Ever Going To Have. And Maybe Somehow, In Someway, That Was For Some Reason Just The Way She Expressed Herself, Like It Or Not. From That Day On, I Listened To Her, And Started To Hear The Things She Was Saying Differently. I Don't Know If This Helps, But I Hope It Will. If Nothing Else, The Next Time She Starts To Become Negative In A Conversation With You, Counter Everything That Is Said With Something Positive. In My Own Experience, Light Cuts Out Darkness Rather Quickly. = )
just do what i did. moved half way across the country. never even told her i was moving and where to. i had no contact with her in any form for 17 years. when i found out she died i was overjoyed! my "mother" was one evil shitass! from what you have said in your post it, does not sound like your mother is evil or a shitass; just quite controling. if she upsets you so much, tell her what she does that upsets you and tell her to quit it. if she won't take you into consideration then, have less contact with her.
