My indifference to men?

I'm not really sure what I expect as a response to this thread but I really just wanted to get this out there and get some feedback from everyone.

It's like im never attracted to anyone. A couple weeks ago I had this one guy over and we were smoking this really great pot and I just wanted to lay there and talk to him. I just wanted to hear his stories. All he wanted to do was fuck my brains out. Not to say he didn't want to cuddle and kiss but it was like I didn't want to at all. I did anyways.....I didn't want to let him down.

I'm not the type of person who is really shallow, infact I know you won't beleive me when I say this but physical appearence really isn't that important at all to me.

It's like no one around here has attractive qualities, they all have the same motive just to fuck me, all in good fun. Im not opposed to sex, infact I love sex just....sometimes I feel like I'd like something more then the typical fling. Someone who runs a little deeper then parties and one night stands.

I like the concept of free love, but I don't feel the love. I don't want to judge all men the same way. It's like it's impossible to find someone who is deep and an actual intellectual. Not just a pseudo intellectual until my pants are down. I can't even get turned on nowadays unless I think of the kinkiest thigns possible. I used to just get off so easily on the simplest of things.

Wherever the hell you are out there sir, I need to find you quick. I'm starting to turn into a zombie. If one more person asks to meet for coffee I'm going to lose hope. When will someone be different??!!


I know I post way to many threads but I could actually use your help this round.

 

must be a late teens early twenties thing then...*shrugs*

 

And I want something that runs deeper that parties and one night stands and perpetual dreamers who take what they see at face value instead of putting the time in to look.

You're not gonna trip over something meaningful as you party and judge the people you party with as more shallow than you just because they're there too.

 

Why Not Just "Keep Your Legs Together" Till A Man Comes Along That

Treats You Like A Lady, Then Develop The Relationship Slowly....



Cheers Glen.

 

That's kind of presumptious why so defensive. I wasn't attacking you. Btw I don't go to said parties.

 

Well, it wasn't really directed at you personally. Just my opinion on girls who have the exact same problem as a lot of the guys they think is the cause of it.

I could have just as easily made this same thread, eh. I don't know what the fuck I'm talking about. ramble ramble ramble

 

Well if you did I wouldn't have responded like an asshole. That's okay though you just make my point a little more clear for all the other readers who don't have their heads up their ass.

 

not a personal attack or anything, but i would have suggested making this thread after the 'i might be pregnant' thread was out of sight...because someone will say something like above and mean it.

as for my advice...try to figure out if guys youve had a bad experience with have any common qualities, and think about how that may have influenced the situation. if you're the type of person that can really figure out people's heads, this can work wonders, especially if you're not as good with actual interaction. and what the hell is wrong with meeting for coffee?

and both of you stop being defensive pussies and proving each others points...it's amusing at first but gets frustrating and painful to watch very quickly.

 

Hahaha, ouch. Watch what you ask for though. You want someone interesting and different now... but then you meet someone like me and are in waaaay over your head.

 

It doesn't really matter what negative things anyone sais does it? It's just words, measure it in inches.

 

I enjoy a challenge.

 

guy you are looking for most likely is not some pot head hippie free love associate

 

I beg to differ.

 

Wild, not to be rude but if a guy expects that he will get laid you will not get the type of attention you want from him or the substance (depth not mdma). So basically, if a guy isn't giving you the type of mental arousal that you need, throw your hook at more quality fish. It also doesn't hurt to not date douche bags.

If any of this comes off as offense I really didn't intend for that. Just seems that you might be too nice in the bed room errr too welling to give it up to a guy acting the way he's suppose to act.

My $.02

 

Here is a guy rule I'll let you in on.

If you fuck a guy reasonably soon after meeting him, you don't get taken seriously. If I'm ever gonna be in a serious relationship... I'd want her to cherish her vagina at least a fraction as much as I cherish my heart.

 

I am not sure why you say an indifference to men? This whole post is not about that it is about your disappointment (for lack of a better term) in how they treat you and how you do not feel fulfilled being with them.

No answers for you other than you have not found someone who makes you feel that way yet. Maybe you are looking in the wrong places or maybe you just have not met that person yet.

Personally speaking, I am not even sure it is possible to meet a person who you really want to be with until you know who you are.

Maybe you need to find you first?

sounds easy...right

 

Okay...love this. A different analogy than I have ever heard before, not poetic, but I love it.

 

Nice, I appreciate all of your advice. Only having sex with guys who quench my intellectual thirst makes sense.

 

That's such a woman thing to say. hahahahhaa, sorry.

 

^ That's such a male thing to say.