My Husband told me he has had sex with men

I'm a bit late coming in to this here, some interesting posts, esp VG, but a load of crap from some very blinkered folks in my opinion.

Let me tell you where I'm coming from - my wife is out tonight visiting her boyfriend of almost a year; before that we experimented in a threesum - I was outed by my wife as a bisexual 18 month ago after 19 years mariage. She knew I had had m2m liasons before marriage - what hurt her was the lyiing and deceit on I had practiced on and off over the previous five years.

Loving each other and wanting to stay together we were lucky to find much support on forums such as MMOMW making mixed orientated marriages work and HUGS and AP, Alternate Path. There are many forms of very successful alternative marriages - we don't all fit into strict forms, we are inidividual in character and sexuality, many of us are bisexual, bi-curious, gay, lesbian, transgender etc.

The important thing above all else is that he came and told and talked to you. If he is attracted by the same sex that is not going to go away - repress it and you'll not only lose him but he will possibly suffer in various ways. Ther important thing is do you love each other? - when communication breaks down after a period of years of marriage and walls start to build then it can be very hard to break though them and think outside the square. What are your parameters for your marriage - my wife and I are still learning and have been primary but open the last six months and have just had a three month break from each other and now feel even more committed to each other. So far my other liasons have been m2m but I and she are open to me having mf liasons also. Somehow i don't feel a desire for another woman - my wife seems to satisfy my female needs, but she cannot provide my male desires - as an ealier post, no strap-ons for me I want the real thing! - but that is not say that a nice woman does not turn my eye continually; perhaps there are just more of them than nice men!

The ideal would be that we each have a friend with benefits. Before we tried our first threesum with another bi-guy my wife had never thought that she could enjoy it - she went along just for me - and found that it was a huge turnon for her; she loved seeing two men together and taking part.

What works for some will not work for others - you have to work it out between yourselves while being nice to each other and taking small steps one at a time.

Good luck,

Simon :sunny:

 

He'll keep doing it, maybe not for a bit, but trust me. This doesn't go away.

 

This doesn't go away. He could be gay or bi. How interested in sex with you is he? It won't go away and he will keep doing it. NO MATTER WHAT he say.