My boyfriend have this weird masturbation fetish. Is this normal?

In a long distance situation with boyfriend, so we usually Skype a few times in a week. These past few days, he's asked me to spread-open my leg over the camera and told me to masturbate. I don't mind and it's kind of sexy but the thing is, he only watch and stare and don't even take the interest of masturbating or even touching himself while watching me. He just stares. And it gets weirder, even when I'm done, he would ask me to stay still and hold the position and then he would continue staring at it for a long time (20 minutes and sometimes more). I find it really odd. Is this normal or should I freak out? Thanks a lot if any of you would answer this. I am seriously confused.

 

yeah that sounds weird as hell to me. if he was masturbating at the same time, it would make perfect sense.

but, it could just be what he's into. i don't know that it's something to freak out about; it could very well just be a weird-ass kink.

 

Maybe he's embarrassed to jerk it in front of you.

.....and his spank bank camera has a really slow shutter speed

 

Haha , yeah a little weird, why dont you ask him. Tell him your ok with doing it but you would prefer it if he also did it. I wouldnt do it for a girl if I wasnt getting any feedback positve or encouragement, It would creep me out.

 

haha, does he look someting like this when this is going on?

 

LOL^
But yeah, sounds a bit strange. Perfectly fine if he was wanking along with you.

 

Maybe he's recording you & then sending it to a website or to someone?

 

If he did that, he is a massive douche-bag.

 

hahaha his internet and camera is more advanced than me, I'm sure thats not it. you might be right, he could be embarrassed, but he could just maybe touch himself for a bit? but he didn't and he just stares with both of his hands doing absolutely nothing and seem to absolutely enjoy just staring at it.

:rofl::rofl:

He wouldn't, I'm sure of it. I would've realize anyway if there's anything suspicious. Besides, the camera didn't capture my face, maybe just my chin cause when I do it he asked me to lye down. And when I'm doing it, I see both of his hands never touch his keyboard, mouse, or anything at all, he just put both his hands under his chin.

 

Revenge porn sites are a huge problem though and apparently it has ruined a lot of lives, having material floating online unbeknownst to the individual involved to the point where they've lost their job.

It's also a huge problem among tweens and teens, which is around the age where they start "flirting" using digital mediums with boyfriends and girlfriends. Nothing you send via a digital medium is private, the service provider always has a copy and now owns that data, and if that service provider was to have their security breached...someone is bound to find your sexts, vids, and pics.


@OP, yeah that's creepy. Have you confronted him about that telling him his constant staring is making you uncomfortable?

It could be that he's also just trying to study your anatomy, for learning purposes when he is actually live person to person with you.

Q: Have you been with him person to person and not just long distance via online? Or has the relationship been entirely via cyberspace?

 

Just for the record, my webcam is able to record. Go to xhamster and look for the recorded Omegle videos.

Have you tried to encourage him to start masturbating for you? Maybe he is a bit shy to get started. I know my wife masturbated in front of me before i did in front of her, but once i did it once, i was off! Could be the same for him.

 

No I never confronted him about it because just last night I started to feel a bit odd about it. I just want to make him happy.

Our relationship isn't entirely based via cyberspace. We've known each other for 1 year and a half now, and recently he had to moved away out of country for about 6 months for his work. You can say that this relationship is pretty serious, and both of our family know each other well and have discussed in real life of marrying us soon. He don't have any reasons to revenge me or put me into trouble, I guess.

 

I can just imagine him using his webcam software to freeze the frame, after which he viciously whacks off.

 

Just send him a photo. It will be far less boring for you.

 

We all have our quirks, perhaps it is weird in some eyes; but if you don't mind and he's not crazy what's the problem

 

I almost thought maybe he was recording you, but....I don't think that's the case here. Is there any chance of him actually NOT even looking at you when you're masturbating on cam for you? That would explain the fact that he's not even masturbating with you when you are. Remember, he only needs to come back to your "window" every few minutes to keep the conversation going and APPEAR like he's been paying attention to you the entire time.

By the way, I like your second name "Talulah".

 

That's not what I was talking about. Men have something we like to call a "spank bank." It's where we store mental images that we later masturbate too. Our internal "camera" snaps a picture. And our brain stores it in the spank bank.

 

Yeah, girl. I hate to break it to you, but he's probably filming you! One can film the screen, and take pictures on skype, so he's probably "directing" you if-you-will.

I hate to say it, cause it's pretty fucked if he didn't tell you, but that sounds like it.

 

Another vote for "he's making porn" here. You are being filmed for sure, and you will eventually end up on some website if you haven't already. You may trust him now, but the minute you break up, you'll be a star...

 

Break up with that loser and strip for me! wait! you're of age right?