Although there is nothing I love more in this world than filling my wife to the brim I tend to have a more intense orgasm when we use our hands. Just a little persistent jerk can build the pleasure to heights that intercourse can rarely match. I guess I get carried away when I'm inside her but her hand going slow and steady means I can last longer and when all the stars align feel an intensity that just goes on and on. I don't know how I can feel so good for so long and yet not cum - it's sublime. There's two main differences I can identify - number one I'm touching her at the same time and thinking about what specifically I'm doing with my hand and fingers, how she's responding and what I'm going to do next which takes my mind of how good I'm feeling. Number two she gets caught up in the pleasure of it all and loses her rhythm. She just stops jerking me all together when she gets lost in a wave and there's something incredible about it - not knowing what she's gonna do next. Eventually when she's about to explode she speeds up and we both go for broke and it's phenomenal. The whole thing lasts longer than sex and I feel more satisfied overall. Maybe I'm just not very good at lovemaking and need to learn how to distract my mind to make it last longer - what do you think? Any tips?
My wife and I enjoyed mutual masturbation during our dating years and still do it as part of foreplay. I really don't know which lasts longer because we try to go slow in our sex activities and extend the time of enjoyment,
I think you're doing just fine. Your hands, especially your digits, have far more capability for varied and precise movement than your penis does. Her hands can grip you with far more precision and tension, when needed, than her vagina can. If you both prefer this, stay with it. In your posting, you equate "intercourse" with "sex" and "lovemaking." Coitus, vaginal penetrative intercourse, is necessary only if you are trying to produce a child together. It's a sexual act, but so is manual stimulation of a partner's genitals. Mutual masturbation is a sexual act. It's sex. When you got married and promised with your wife to "forsake all others," you weren't just talking about coitus. Do what you like, what feels good to you both. There's nothing wrong or unskilled about that.
My wife liked watching me jerk off as she laid on her back getting herself off. Once she came I would straddle her waist and cum on her stomach and tits. It reminded her of her early sex when the boy would pull out and cum on her.
My wife and I dated over seven years before we married, starting in high school. Almost every date involved mutual masturbation in the car, and we perfected it for our pleasure. In college, she was fucking other guys, but we stuck with my fingering her while she gave me a hand job until our wedding night. She enjoyed much better orgasms from our activity than from fucking.
Ya as I thought.... You might try tying her up, and take a survey on what to do next. Just a thought....
I've got a better idea. Why don't we trawl forums for a question that shows weakness and pounce on the person's fragility so we can feel better about ourselves?
No, I prefer to challenge posts containing very broad and open-ended questions, usually but not always from guests, that are obviously bogus and poorly designed to elicit responses that serve only clog this forum while sexually exciting the author. It's kinda fun! I can't wait to see what fictitious fantasy you inquire about next!
