Moaning

how much is important for you to hear your partner moaning and grunting during sex?
I heard that especially for women, this is a real turn on to see and to hear the partner letting go..

for me is also a trigger when I hear my gf moaning or screaming, it became very hard to control myself

 

It's a huge turn on. Even while we're in a public place, those very low moans tell me we are a very lucky couple to be able to enjoy each other to that level of satisfaction.

Think of it like a musical genre you love...so good for the soul.

 

I definitely like it when my partner makes sounds and I can tell I'm doing things that feel good to him/her.

 

If he's not making any type of sounds….. there's something wrong.

 

I had one who never made any sounds, it was unnerving.

He was also insanely uptight, had never done anal, wouldn't let me put anything in his butt, and only wanted to screw once a week. :/

 

This is not completely true. I tend to be very quiet...though internally I wanna burst at the seams!...but I just get very self-concious about the way I would sound or who might hear...so I really enjoy myself but one critique against me is that I don't enjoy myself out loud enough for the girl to recognize it...the only prize she gets is the big one at the end...and I feel bad about that...I need to work on my moaning more so a girl knows how much I appreciate what she's doing...just need to get over my self-consciousness

 

Agreed you do, it's extra baggage that nobody needs. Sex should be simple, caring, attentive, wild at times, and requires both individuals involved to forget the fear of judgement. Otherwise it isn't the best sex...

 

The "something wrong" in this scenario is that you are too self-conscious to really let go. If you can get past that, sex will be better for both you and your partner.

I'm definitely not saying that people should feel like they have to scream like a porn star... a lot of people, women particularly, feel the opposite self-consciousness, like they have to make a lot of noise to prove how much they're enjoying themselves. The idea is to just let go of any thought about what you "should" sound like and just let noises come out without thinking, although if you are conditioned to be silent it might be helpful to start learning to let go by making some noise deliberately at first. Likewise, for people who have gotten used to screaming and putting on a show, it might be very useful to try having sex completely silently.

 

haha...yeah that sounds good...maybe i'll give it a shot..it's been something i've been meaning to get over for while..but as I don't have a woman right now...I don't really have a chance to practice...

 

I DISagree you should '... work on yr moaning'. best to be real I think!

(sex is not an act ... oh. yes it is ... but you know what I mean.)

whatever happened to the strong silent type?

cheers

 

My wife's body swivers if I touch her sensative areas or get her aroused in other ways. But she keeps fairly quite, as we have a family member who sleeps in a room nearby.
Sometimes my wife makes a slight moaning noise if she's about to have an orgasm.
I'd love to hear what a woman makes verbaly when she squirts during a very wet orgasm.

 

if we are somewhere that no one will hear I moan quite a bit, my husband, he makes these grunting noises, but also if we are private where no one will hear. We travel in a van with a VW poptop and if we are camping with other campers in close proximity then we are very quiet...it's kind of exciting to try and not make noise, but sometimes almost impossible

 

I love hearing the small little moans when her orgasm starts to build then loud and louder leading to a long low moan.

 

The more vocal.. the better!

 

i tend to need to clap my own hand over my mouth to keep from screaming when i'm over at my sweetie's place. his roommate would not appreciate what they would hear otherwise........

as for my man, i love the sounds he makes. not a lot of vocal until he's ready to cum, but enough for me to know he's really enjoying himself. when he's about to cum, the moans he makes gets me more excited and we always end up cumming together. it's that first bigger moan and that feeling of him having that little spasm inside me right before he cums that triggers my own orgasm. love it. love it even more when he moans my name right then.

also like the moans he makes when i'm playing with a fingertip on the rim of his ass. they are different than his other moans, and they really turn me on.

 

i find a turn on too when we're trying to hold from making noise.. and sometimes the only way is to hold our breath!

 

Love the sounds made when making love to a woman when they are real and part of the moment as well as some good dirty talk! Can't stand the bullshit fake stuff on porns though. When my lady and I watch porn together I need to turn the volume down so I don't have to listen to that fake garbage.

 

I started a thread recently about whether you lot like music or quiet during sex. The reason being I want quiet - absolute quiet, so I can hear my partner. I want to hear every little breath and sigh. It helps me understand her mood so I can adjust my lovemaking to her needs (God I have just re read that and it sounds so pompous, but it's true)

About six months ago, I fucked a workmate (and very special friend) when we were supposedly in a meeting. The third person in the meeting text me to say they could make it. She does like a good old moan, especially during anal. Didnt manage to get that far during this quicky. But it was so sexy not to make any noise. She stuck her fingers up her pussy before clamping over her hand over my mouth to stop my usual grunt cum noise. Being gagged with pussy smelling hands did the trick for me

It was also very sexy wiping up cum from the meeting room table which leaked from her pussy. We have attended scores of meetings in our room since, with colleagues who have no idea where they are leaning!!

 

Hearing the other person's sounds is a huge turn on for me! I need it actually. Not just because it's an indication of him enjoying it, but something else I can't explain. It just ties everything together to make for an amazing experience

 

& I find holding my breath or controlling my breath makes my orgasms so much stronger. Yoga breathing during sex has really improved the strength of my orgasms too.