Men can't handle trouble

Things always have to go smooth in relationships. When things get tough, they don't want to step up, they want to run. What is with that????

 

I'm not sure what men you are referring to. I know plenty of guys who've gone through tough times in their relationships, including myself, who certainly did 'step up'.

 

Yes, it's general. There is much to understand about what goes on in the mind of the other person. Too many times I see that it's too much trouble for men to talk it out.

 

Might be the type of guys you are choosing to be around/with... Blanket statements like this tend to not be the reality of things.

 

It's just I see it the other way, and when women initiate the majority of divorces, I tend to think you have the sexes confused.

 

Well, this isn't about the battle of sexes, or not facing reality. Genders differ in how trouble is handled. We can probably find studies on how much is verbal and how much is actions. Women guilty of initiating divorce might because men aren't "stepping up" to solve troubles in the marriage.

 

No, loads of guys, not all (this is not a blanket accusation) will not confront emotional or difficult issues.

 

In my case I'm trying to figure out why I put up with so much crap. When everyone else says it's time to cut and run, for whatever the reason I'm still here.

 

Or they might be divorcing because it is they who aren't willing to work on it. It goes both ways, which is why I take issue with how your OP is phrased.

 

You can take issue, but it's off track. You want to argue the concept of generalities. This is about handling trouble. Of course women are guilty too.

 

we run from lying psychos only....and even then we will put up with crazy to get pussy to a certain extent...

i noticed your op is light on detail?...dont wanna be judged?...

you mentioned in the other thread that you dont know how a man could stand to put his face in a vagina?....maybe the trouble was only an excuse and the real reason was odorous?

 

I think men don't regard some stuff as trouble so they dismiss their partners trouble as the ol' pointless 'drama' sooner as the other way around thus not confronting the issue but running away from it because they see it as a waste of energy since they don't see it as an issue personally

 

Far too rudimentary. Go play somewhere else where you fit in better.

 

Yes, they think it's drama and a waste. So then, here's another general statement: far too many women are into stupid drama! For those of us truly searching to understand, it makes men scared.

 

I don't get the last sentence I guess. To understand what? And why would it make men scared?

 

I like to understand what goes on in the mind. Not digging, just curious. And it makes men scared, because women (generally) make everything about drama so it ruins it for those of us that want to have a serious discussion.

 

isn't this why 50 shades of grey is so popular among women. According to my neighbor in the book the men are willing to sit down and talk

 

I think when there is less drama the less likely it is that the man does run away so it is not so much that they are scared, it's just they get tired and annoyed by the drama. If a woman wants to understand what goes on in the man's mind 'drama' (to simply put it) is just not the way to go in most cases.

 

Tired and annoyed makes sense but that is because they have pre-decided about the direction of conversation.

 

In the last 10 relationships I have seen end including mine it was the woman that gave up and walked away, because they felt like the grass was greener on the other side in most of the cases. None of these woman were being abused, cheated on or not giving attention. Most of them were offered anything they wanted to try and fix it.

No I am not saying woman are bad and men are good, because there are good and bad in both sexes. Some people are worth fighting for and others are not. If the other person does not want to communaciate or fix things then why should someone not move on? It takes two to make it work.