mary kay saleslady

the other day i met a mary kay saleslady, who, after chatting for a couple of minutes, went ahead and ruined a perfectly nice conversation by trying to get me in for a complimentary facial as a sales tactic. since i'm incapable of saying no, i ended up filling out the card so she could call me to schedule said complimentary facial. anyways, she called me today...thank goodness i managed to just tell her politely that it would be a waste of both her time and mine because i'm just a bit on the low- maintenance side and a lot on the CHEAP side when it comes to just about everything, beauty products included (as in i prefer herbal essences but buy suave because it's cheaper...).

does this story have a point? not really. all i can say is that i'd hate to be the one trying to sell people things they might not want and most certainly don't need for either survival or happiness.

 

haha yea i know what you mean. i hate that salespeople work the 'friend' angle to pressure you..

 

Yeah, my grandmother was a Mary Kay beauty consultant for years, and before that, a Patricia Gale beauty consultant. I hated how anytime I went to see her she wanted to do me up like a clown.

 

yeah...the "friend" angle is the worst because it's the hardest to refuse. she purposely set it up so it'd be massively akward to turn down her offer...but i went into the phone conversation having already decided on what i was going to say so i didn't have too much trouble turning her down over the phone.

i'm still just frustrated by the amount of surprise and even shock on her part to finding out how very few beauty products i use (aka shampoo, conditioner, and some bath &body works bathwash i got for christmas -won't buy the stuff myself because it's too expensive!- and i definitely don't even own makeup anymore)

 

*shrug* the woman is just doing her job... you knew that she was a saleslady, on teh job.... when someone is on the job, they listen to you because they want to make a sale, they talk with you because they want to make a sale. Likely she works either solely or with a high percentage of her income from commissions - she was just trying to make a living

 

hahaha I have a friend who used to sell Mary Kay, I think she's selling that gourmet chef stuff, can't think of what it's called... Pampered Chef, that's it. LOL

 

the woman is just trying to make a living. it's tiresome, but tolerable. i have an acquaintance who tried to get me in her vitamin sales. ugh. i hate pyramid organizations.

 

You can't blame her for doing her job and it does take some guts to talk to strangers. This reminds me of my friend's mom in high school. Every time I came over she would talk about the products, etc. I can't blame her but it got annoying and my mom, to be polite, would listen to everything. The company is a company that prides itself on "natural" this and that, environmentally friendly, etc but still tests on animals. What the hell.

 

no i agree, thats what she does for a living and props to her if she can work the friend angle without seeming fake.

it just sucks to be on the other end of it; instead of getting friendship, you get a stick of paint for your face. :/

 

y'all are right...she's just doing her job, trying to make a living. in fact, i saw a pink cadillac in the lot on my way out, so she's presumably good at what she does as well. it was just irritating because i have such a tough time saying no thanks.

 

ahhaha...a PINK cadillac?

 

I don't so much mind strangers trying to play the 'friend' angle because I tend to be wary of anyone who acts too friendly the first time we've met.

What really sucks is when someone you think is a real friend then becomes a mary kay person. I saw one person I know ruin several friendships that way...

 

yeah...my problem is that i trust people quickly who seem nice. as far as that goes, i'm a prime target because i love to chat with random strangers and have a terribly hard time saying no.

 

Well while it is her job, it is NOT fair to take advantage of you not being able to say no. You have a right to
If she is a friend then she will realize that's ok to do. If not then screw it.

 

saying no just takes practice. we get so involved with being a nice person and being perceived as a kind hearted person that we get into this bizarre martyr complex, i swear. took me forever to learn to say no.

 

Oh I didn't mean "it's so simple, just do it!'
I have a hard time saying no, too!

 

well, it really is pretty simple, though. once you get past your desire to be nice at your own cost.

 

ok...any good strategies/suggestions for learning how to say no?

 

just bite the bullet and do it in a nice tone of voice. i swear, it's so hard the first few times, but it gets easier once you realize that it's not bad of you not to want to buy something from someone or to protect your own interests.

 

i currently have a mary kay lady stalking me... seriously...
she was at my work one day visting someone and she came up to me tried to sell me some crap and i made the biggest mistake by filling out one of those stupid card things and now she calls me all the freaking time...