Lowering Expectations

as i grow older, i come to realize i want less out of the world.
i no longer want to strive for a 6 figure income - i just want to have a comfortable life

is this coming to a reality or losing motivation?

 

if you're like me, this isn't because of either, it's because you've changed what you want out of life.

changed what you value most.

but you could definitely not be like me, so... just my .02c

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EDIT: lol i just realized this doesn't answer the question.

 

no, thats good way to put it...

i think im finally discovering that i value people and my connections with people over material things...ive always had people i enjoy around me, so i never realized that that is what i miss...just having good times and being happy

 

i'm the same way.. back when i was younger i wanted the cash.. but now.. not as much.. i want enough to live comfortable..

money is like manure.. if you don't spread it around.. it starts stinkin up the place

 

i feel the same way. I used to want to be rich and all that jazz, but thats very unlikely to happen so id say its just coming to a reality

 

that's my goal, to live happily. obviously you don't need money to do this. i need to find a good balance income, seems like people with too much money aren't happy, as well as poor people with no money.

 

i mean, i still want nice things. and id absolutely love to have a nice car because im a total geek for cars...but having fur coats, mansions, a boat - shit like that...meh

i just want to be happy with other people that are happy too

 

i right now make a lil over $20k a year.. and i live happy.. i can go do my thing during the summer.. i have a car.. pay my bills... smoke my green... if i make more... i would feel like i was livin the life.. cuz ive learned to make my ends on this income.. like once my car is paid off.. i have an extra $250/mo to spend.. like wtf.. i already have extra money.. now im gonna have a lot of extra money

 

my life will be complete when i own a boat.. but that's me.. i live to fish

 

I would love a boat. Something about getting away and being almost unreachable for a while seems very satisfying...

 

boats arent too expensive, motors on the other hand are pretty expensive i think my dad droped 8k on his outboard and 2k on the speedboat

 

i know.. especially when you look for used ones on CL.. i've found some steals of a deal.. like boat/trailer/motor for $500... i don't need some expensive ass motor.. a 10hp would work fine around here.. 20hp would be preferred..

 

theres the thing - i want to be happy, but i also would like to be able to set aside money and buy nice things every so often.

 

dude at 18---try to be rich at least once---life experiences and all---ive been rich ive been poor curently poor but dont care but at 47 thats older not 18 thats young as fuck

 

its not something that i can just strive to be...i cant say "I want to be rich" and go after it easy as that - thered be a lot of really rich people if it were.

i just want to be happy. if i was happy my entire life i wouldnt even care about money - it's just that money has a perceived level of happiness because it is a ticket in society. you see happy people doing things that cost money, you perceive that if you had money you could do the same things to make you happy.

if i had someone to be happy with and i had food and i had some cash in my pocket, id be great

 

once my car is paid off i can build up money.. and easily.. though i wanna take care of some old debt and i wanna have a blast this summer.. so its gonna be a lil bit to save up money.. but im in no hurry

 

i don't understand how you can think you cannot strive to be rich.. usually rich people did strive to be rich.. but they also took risks with their money.. you gotta weight your options.. but you can definitely strive to be rich..

 

I thought it was mostly sucking dick, and calling it striving. That, or getting rammed in the ass, and then sucking the shitty dick, and calling it striving hard.

 

I watched Into the Wild last night, and your thread reminded me when he said careers are an invention of the 20th century. I liked that line.

To answer your question though, I would say you are coming to a realization. You should define what is important to you personally, regardless of what other people's expectations and judgments may be. You shouldn't lose motivation, you should just be redefining what you are motivated towards.

 

if you don't strive for something.. you will probably never just end up being it.. sure there is a 1% chance it'll happen by some odd luck..

i wanna be a scientist.. but i don't wanna strive to be one.. i just wanna be one.. :rofl: