Hey everyone, It's my first time posting, and it's because I'm kind of at a loss. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 and a half years, and although we had been sexually active in other ways, we started having actual penetrative sex for the first time in may of this year. It was enjoyable for me, but my boyfriend gets extremely frustrated every time we have sex, and just wants to go back to oral sex. And it doesn't seem like insensitivity, or a lack of drive - he's always really eager to give oral sex, he loves giving massages so there's always a lot of intimacy in our contact, and he really enjoys oral sex. I'm kind of at a loss. As much as oral sex has been satisfying all this time, I really would like to try new things, and I just don't understand why "real" sex has been such a failure for us. He says its sometimes painful, a lot of work "for little result", and "virtually impossible unless you don't have legs". He claims that my legs prevent him from entering properly. I really don't know how to position them to make this easier for him, and both of us are really new at this. He's about a foot taller than me, so I don't know if this could just be a question of the height difference making it hard for him to position himself/me position myself... I don't want things to stay this way. He's all but given up on trying, but I feel like it's really important for us to work through this. I'm all the more discouraged by the fact that no one else seems to have so much trouble having sex. It seems to come so naturally to everyone. Why could we possibly be finding it so complicated? Thanks so much for any advice. Even if it's just a "Don't give up!"!
try out different positions. doggie style is amazing and height is never an issue because you can adjust how high or low you are by leaning over something. lie on your sides, spooning, with you in front and see how that works. there are tons and tons of different things you can try. really, don't give up. sex is too awesome to just give up. =)
Ya, that's exactly how I feel! I'm sure it'll be awesome once we figure it out... I just don't understand how it can be so bad that he just doesn't even want to bother. Sigh. Thanks for the encouragement, though i really needed to hear that right about now, lol.
Maybe he's used to a certain kind of stimulation and everything else doesn't do it for him. What was his past like?
That's strange, but it sounds as though he's just so used to oral, since that's all you've been doing for 3 years. definitely try doggy, it gets rid of the leg "problem" and you can adjust a lot more. do it at the edge of a bed with him standing on the ground. show him how much you love it too. and don't be afraid to rape the shit out of him too. ride him like a bad pony, even if his bitch ass whines and complains that you're sliding up and down his cock with your wet pussy. LOL
