Living with boyfriend

Does anyone get the feeling that you don't find as much time to do things you like that your significant other doesn't have interest in after moving in together?

Discuss: Peeves you have about living with a boyfriend/girlfriend.

 

I'd give anything to get back with my ex and live with him.
I lived with him all summer and he never did anything that irritated me. I'd give anything to go back to that.

 

Oh there are quite a few things my ol man does that annoys me lol

But I know I do things that bug the shit outta him lol

 

hell, that even happens with roommates to an extent.

for one thing, i'd much rather live with a girlfriend.

 

Why did you break up?

There. I fixed it.

 

I just feel like the things that we don't have in common (like certain films, music, leisure activities) I don't get to do since moving in with him. I've never lived anywhere but home so I'm not sure how to deal.

And another thing- he uses my stuff. My itouch, he insists on taking it to work so he won't be bored, and he leaves his username logged on on my computer all the time. Arrghh! All of my apps like facebook or the website we use to log in our food (60 lbs lost and counting) are never logged into my name when I need them and it annoys the hell out of me.

 

do those things when he's not around.

or even when he is. just because you're living together doesn't mean you have to do everything together.


and tell him to do his job when he's at work so he doesn't need to take your phone to keep himself entertained.

 

You guys should get separate computers..

Also, I can relate to living with a boyfriend. I live with my boyfriend and we don't always agree on what movie we wanna watch. It becomes kinda a big deal. Sometimes I'm convinced we're complete opposites and wonder how we ended up together. >.< It all seems to work out in the end though.

I feel like moving in together makes us a more serious couple now and I don't really have time to hang out with the random friends I once did. I kind of feel like he's my only friend and we don't always agree with what we wanna do on a saturday night...

I honestly think I just need a best friend. Probably a female. So I can spend time doing things with her that my boyfriend isn't interested in (shopping, etc)..

But yeah, my advice to you is to invest in another computer.

 

Come to Miami and we'll commiserate :2thumbsup:

 

Is there anyone out there who has lived with their partner for more than 10 years and would not rather live on their own? If you could, for example, live in adjoining places, or down the street. Still be together minus the domestic bliss-less state?

Who thinks that living together takes all the romance and spice out of it? Who thinks that it's better together?

 

Even with all the annoying things, I still think living together is the difference between a couple who's just dating and one that's serious. If you can't stand being around them, you're not good together.

Things are getting better already. He's happily playing a video game while I happily hog my ipod listening to my favorite neglected music and surfing the web.

 

I think it's better together, living in separate places just seems odd. I love all those odd quirky times we have together. Being apart you would miss things, like wake up sex, middle of night sex.

It's the small things.

There are things that annoy the hell out of me with my hubby and can't wait for him to get to work some days. Then there's days where I wish he was here because I miss him, and no other reason other then I truly miss him.

Oh and seriously get 2 puters in the house lol. We do plus our own tabs as well lol.:love:

 

Agreed, goofy!

 

Ehh..... Other than the serious thugs who can't speak english, alcoholism is the only thing that's ever bothered me about roomies.


Never lived with a girlfriend..... Roomies that fuck, that's cool, but a proper girlfriend would drive me nuts, unless she was way too perfect for me to have any chance at existing.

 

I like it better. Now we can spend a little time together even on very busy days and have all the "small things", as Goofy put it.
It's also a very effective indicator of how well two people really get along. I believe that when something annoys you, with time it will only annoy you more. So it's all about knowing how to tell that something bothers you in a calm way and then negotiate/compromise.
About the loss of romance and spice: it's the routine that causes it and that doesn't have anything to do with living together.

Principessa, I'm glad it's getting better .

Why do you think she would drive you nuts?

 

i've had roommates that stole from me, and roommates that smelled awful, and a roommate (during college) that lied to the college about me doing hard drugs in the room. also a roommate that was addicted to hard drugs and almost got me arrested and stole from me and paid maybe 10% of the rent that he owed. now that i think about it, i understand why i've lived alone for the last 6 or 7 years.

anyway, i wasn't necessarily saying that it was annoying, just that when you live with a roommate they affect how you spend your time.

 

I agree. The little things he does always make me happy. Like whenever he wakes up first I wake up to him stroking my face or hair, and when I open my eyes, he tells me I'm beautiful or that he loves me. Makes me feel special, and very happy first thing in the morning whereas when I lived with my family I'd wake up sad because of my crappy home life.

We're getting a new bed this weekend! We've been squeezing onto his single mattress since I moved in. lol

 

I think i'm a misery, irritable and depressed. Things like the car races on a sunday I find so depressing I have to leave the house.

The constant belly boiling when one is tidy and the other a pig. My bf will cook dinner for me, but use every pot and utensil, spill half of it up the wall, then I have to wash up. All the while with the inner dialogue I'm trying to swallow is something like this...should have f'n done it myself, would have been easier...he couldn't give a f or offer to help. can't he see i've been slaving around the house all day, washing his shit for no thanks. i'm buying all the food, paying the rent, look at him mr bare f'n minimum. just do the least bit possible....don't worry, I'll f'n do it, don't worry it's 10pm and I have to get up with the kids...just look after number one.....

That's why i prefer to live alone. The inevitable annoyance is not worth it, I'm not pleasant to be around during 2 weeks of the month, so all in all i shouldn't bother. Is anyone else like this? or am I just a miserable ass.

 

what a dick. just because he's awake doesn't mean he has to wake you up too.

 

You just have to make time for you.9 months ago I moved 800 miles to move in with my boyfriend (the first boy I've ever lived with). Living with a boy can be life changing for us ladies, but it does not have to be a bad thing.

Since I moved this far I left all my friends and family behind, and his friends are all about 5 years younger than me, and while I don't mind them I need friends of my own that are my age and that have concerns for the world as a whole. I work with good people, but they aren't like my best friends from home/college. I too, need a local best girl friend that I can do shit with, girl style (sorry if that sounds lame). I've always appreciated the company of men more than women (not sexually just in the way that I am), but now I need WOMEN...it's so weird.

My lover and I share things, but we do not have any significant problems. I'd let him use my ipod if need be, but taking it to work daily as if it's his own (HELL NO).

La princessa, the only "solution" is communication. The one benefit of moving in together is getting to know each other even better, and gives you time to know if the relationship will really work. Before either of you are set in your ways, you should talk about your concerns with your partner. Without communication he does not know what you are thinking. Communication is key in ANY relationship.