Most of us realize we are lesbian by the time we are teenagers. After living a heterosexual lifestyle for so many years, what has been your realization as you get older? I have spent most of my life in traditional roles and learned normalities. I spent many years as a devoted wife of a good man, loving mother and career woman. Sometime after my divorce, three years before coming out at 45, I began to develop lesbian realizations. Now I'm 48. I don't think I suddenly became a lesbian; I think I always have been, but it was at odds with the traditional lifestyle I lived. But now that I'm out, I'll always be out; For me there is no turning around and going back.
I am a guy and I realised I was the way I am probably by 11 or 12.... I realised that love is beautiful and it doesnt matter who we love (God would rather have love than hate.. (Which there is morem and more of now ))
I think that late bloomers are more common than most people think. I didn't figure out who I was until I was in my 60s. My story is a bit more complicated, but better late than never.
After my mother made it clear that she did not approve of my coming out at all - which included us not talking for several weeks, she had her own coming out at 67! It really wasn't surprising, since she hadn't been involved with a man at all in over 10 years.
Cant talk about personal experience.........but my oldest sister(13 years older) is lesbian. She first married a guy(catholic),left home at 19(reasons) had 4 children in very short time.............later(in her 30 s) discovered she was lesbian(got divorsed). Married again)) and still had 2 children more(1 adopted and1 artifficially)............happy ever after. Love my oldest sis..........she partly raised me.My best guess,you sometimes have to experience what you dont like, before you find what you do like... Also what is acceptenced in society(nl)/time plays a big part imo. Maybe being afraid to not be accepted and conform to society you live in. I might ask her.... Mzzls
