last night blowed

...like literally.
ok well, i go out to hang out with someone who i thought was just a friend, i expected to be hanging out with a bunch of other people, but we ended up by ourselves at his place. we barely talked to eachtoher, just watched tv while he akwardly starts groping me. push comes to shove. kiss leads to bj. ive always thought i was really good at it, from what ive heard. but i have never done it for so long. felt like an hour. and he never even came. it just ended with him asking if i was tired... then we went out, smoked a bowl, i told him that i dont think ive ever given head for so long before and he said it was good head. then we pretty much didnt say shit to eachother until i got dropped off to my house in the morning. when i left his car, there was no kiss, no hug, no i call you, you call me, nothing. nothing, but a kinda 'bye, see ya' kinda thing. it was just all really akward

so... what the hell happened there? like did i just do that bad of a job? did he just want a one night stand and was upset that i didnt want to put out more than i did?

gahh and hes close friends with all these guys i know and hang out with. one of them whom i really like and care about. another who's my ex and was the only guy ive ever fallen in love with. thats how i knew him and thats why i thought we were going to be hanging out with those friends last night. and now he's going to tell all of them about what happened... and now theyre going to think im a whore... which i am not. but this is the third guy out of their circle of friends that ive gotten with.
i feel terrible :[
any insight or comments would help. just to at least get me to stop worrying about it

 

well. from reading this, sounds like you are a whore. lol. no offence.

but seriously, what do you think was going on in his head while you were doing that..

"yep, got another slut to suck my dick"

geez. even i wouldnt suck somebodys dick, who isnt my long-time boyfriend. lol

 

youre right.

 

we like sex. sex is fun. its no big to us. its like scratchin someones back. or givin them a ride somewhere. like its somethin thet ppl just do in our minds. it feels good, kinda fun. if ur a couple or friends or strangers, why not go for it? we dont usually see it as a relationship starter.

 

sex(intercourse) is different from giving head.. .

 

Woah, judgment much?

Seriously, what is with women calling each other whores? Sometimes I think sexual liberation is held back more by women than men.

Some people hook up with multiple partners, some don't. If you want to get with every guy from here to Memphis, go ahead. You're the only real judge of yourself. As long as you're safe, who gives a fuck what people think?
I'd be more irked at his cool goodbye. He sounds sort of rude.

 

Yeah, broads are catty like that. Always twistin' those knives...

 

yeah. who cares what i think. what i say doesnt matter. lol.. i just say what i think. thats all.. i call people names all the time. but it doesnt mean i have anything against them.

look. now you can call me a bitch. BITCH. lol

 

I don't think you're a bitch. I'm just freaked out at how quick women are to apply harsh words to other girls over sexuality.

 

You're not a slut, but you need to pick your guys better, that was a really shitty way for things to end. Communication is key in sexual relationships, and if things are too awkward to communicate with him, then perhaps the physical stuff should wait untill it is no longer awkward.

 

that does sound pretty shitty... i think things like this are why ppl need to establish boundaries for themselves BEFORE they go out so that they're not forced to make quick decisions on the spot... because going with the flow like you did was obviously not a good idea for you

 

i think thats the best way to go. i definitely need to make strong, clear boundaries from now on. totally regret even going out, if only i knew. and now i know he's already told all of his friends, and they probably all think im a whore for sure. ruining my friendship with some of them and ruining things for the one i really had feelings for :[


fuck!

 

yeah, don't let the kiss lead to the blowjob automatically... I think its very intimate.






Let the kiss lead to cunnilingus.(kidding here)

 

I agree that she is not necessarily a slut
but she was definitely partaking in mighty slutt behavior
which I also think isn't necessarily a bad thing
but if you are going to be going around blowing random dudes, don't thinky ou are necessarily gonna get treated well
and hope you don't get a sore throat in the next few days

everything comes with it's territory
acting like a slut will get you treated like a slut.

 

i just dont think during those 'times'. i get too into it.
i know i cant justify what i did, but at least i didnt sleep with him.... right?
i mean i turned that down...

lol dont answer that. im just trying to make myself feel better

 

agreed, particularly on the good communication as a basis for any sexual relationship thing

 

no reason to feel bad

but if you don't like it, don't do it again

use knowledge from your dark past to make your future brigther

 

yeah thats basically how life works. and what ive already planned on doing

but what would i do about the whole situation with his friends and mine? leave it alone i guess?

 

yup
not much you can do