Kids looking at porn

My 12 year old nephew is crashing at my place for the month. I hopped on the computer and noticed that while I've been working, he's been checking out A LOT of porn. I don't want to get the guy in trouble or anything. I mean, I checked out porn on the internet when I was a teenager so I know for the most part, it's a normal guy thing. However, I feel like maybe this should be adressed in some manner. I don't think he should be in any hot water for this, and I want there to still be an open line of communication with us. Should I talk to him directly? Should I let it slide? Should I talk to my sister and let her deal with? Should I just forget about the whole thing? Any advice?

 

Talk to him, quietly, about it. Don't accuse him of being a pervert, lol. Let him know that you realize it's a very normal, but that letting him do it at your place could get YOU into trouble with his mom, who then may not let him come back. Maybe out of respect for you, he'll tone it down a bit on his own.

 

Don't rat him out. I'd tell him exactly what you think. Tell him you don't mind him checking that stuff out but that it's not cool to be looking at it so much. After you talk to him, if he continues abusing it then I'd probably tell him that he's forcing you to lock him out of the computer. It's a matter of respect. You're trying to respect him by letting him look at some porn but he needs to respect you, too, and if doesn't then take away his net access.

 

Clear out your history, temp files, cookies and place a password on your computer. Your nephew is 12 years old, not 19, He needs to understand what he did was wrong and especially disrespectful to you, as well as the trust issue that goes along with that. You should also make him understand that it is degrading to those involved.

While the following article is an indication of what can happen in some cases it is something to consider.

http://sympaticomsn.ctv.ca/servlet/ArticleNews/story/CTVNews/1087483439596_82892639?hub=topstories

 

Jus tell him that yer gonna get in big fuckin trouble with his mom if he keeps it up.

 

hahha how is looking at porn in anyway disrespectfull??? He's 12yrs old its perfectly natural for him to become interested in such things. Personally if it was my nephew i would make a joke about it to him so he knows im aware of his doings but i would never ever get mad at him or tell someone who would get mad at him. LIFE IS WAYYYY TO SHORT TO BE UPTIGHT.

By the way tom are u in KYT?

 

I agree, it's not disrespectful to be looking at porn in general; but it might be to be looking at it sneakily on someone elses computer.

Also, Mari, that article was about child porn. Most people who look at porn do not look at child porn, therefore do not feel the need to assault a child. I don't feel it's a good idea to equate regular porn with child porn.

 

Can you explain KYT?

 

haha...obviously NOT a parent are you.

12 years old, yes, it is perfectly natural, however it is also the responsibility of the adults around him to discuss it with him properly not slap him on the back and hand him a free pass to all the porn he can get his hands on.

He did something that he knew he shouldn't be doing, and on someone elses computer. That IS disrespectful.

It has nothing to do with being up tight it does however have something to do with being a responsible adult and caregiver.

 

I did not say that everyone who looks at porn has these feelings at all. I did say that it was something to consider.

To a 12 year old porn is porn and considering that he is a child to him another 12 or 14 year old is not a child. You can find anything on the net, popups on porn sites cover everything. To a 12 year old boy it's like hitting the jackpot and he can click away to his hearts content with no thought of the ages of the people he's looking at.

Maybe you don't look at child porn, but there are millions that do and they're not going to tell anybody about it as it's illegal and they can and will be arrested for it.

My point was he needs to be taught respect and responsibility.

 

In my opinion... Nothing wrong with him looking at porn.... its a completely normal thing to do.... Im just jealous its so easy for them to get at now adays.... HA HA HA I had to SNEAK it with the old VHS tapes back in the day....

 

just do to him what the a judge here in san antonio did not too long ago.
some high school kids were on a field trip to the county courthouse here.
one 14 year old boy went in to a judges chambers and started to look at porn on the computer.
the judge walked in and caught the kid. he had a deputy arrest the kid and, carted him off to the county jail.
now that kid is up on charges and, if convected will be put on the national sex offenders registry!
TALK ABOUT APESHITING THERM-NUCLEAR OVERKILL!
some judges are total idoits that, need to be recalled and, voted out of office!

as for your nephew mate, i think almost everyone here, in this thread, has given you sound advice.
the only thing i would add to it is, that if he keeps using your computer to look at porn that, you will have no choice but, to lock him out of your computer.
also, let him know when he turns 18 he can then watch all the porn he wants to at your house.
well, there is my 2 cents on the matter. consider it like everyone's else 2 cents here on the matter.
i'm quite sure, you will do the best thing you can at this time.
i'm sorry but, there is no 100% perfect answer to this just, like most things are in life.
best wishes to both you and your nephew on this matter.

 

i dont think its that big of a problem now that hes 17

 

Thats a really tough call.... On one hand, you dont want to tell him its OK to watch as much porn as he wants, but then again, his a boy, and he is GOING to watch it as a normal part pf puberty. My advice would be to talk to him about it. If he wants to continue to watch it, its up to him.

 

dont saying anything.

If I was 12 I would hate it if anyone in my family knew I was watching porn. So far the advice has been f*cking stupid......."talk to your kid man"..WTF? do you remember what being 12 was?

 

any parent who allows their kids easy access to internet porn really needs to either put some internet filters up. or they need to just do away with internet in their home all together completely. kids are already horny enough as it is and teen pregnancy rates already high enough. the last thing there should be are things to encourage them further. i realise the encouraging of abstinence doesn;t work with all kids. but why encourage more behavior that shows correlation to dropping out of high school and other poor choices in life?

 

Or be a good relative and show what sites to go to. Before he gets your card and charges shit to it. You could also use this as awesome blackmail.

 

I remember when I got caught looking at porn when I was a kid, my moms asshole exhusband had a shit fit.


Fucker made me write an essay for my principal about why looking at porn was wrong.


Just dont do that.

That was terrible and humiliating.

 

well I dont have kids but imagine there is all kinds of ways to filter search engines and maybe even programs out there that can severely limit what he can access on the net.

Its also a good idea to only let kids on the internet while parents are home...and all computers should be in common living areas where they can be kept an eye on.

I also like necroposted threads

 

dyslexic reads this "looking at kids porn"..