Why dont you try to change yourself? Everything can be changed just if you want to. Nice girls want nice guys, so try to be nice with them. Im sure you can do this, cant you?
Chris, honey, you can't change who you are. You have Asperger's. It is not who you are, but it does affect how you act and how you feel and how other people perceive you. You *can* change how you feel, and how you act, and you *can* change what people think about you. You really need to see that school counsellor. If s/he's any good at the job, you will benefit greatly from having someone to talk to. You have a jump start on many people, who never knew they were autistic, who spend their entire lives trying to pretend they aren't different from everyone else. What's your diet like? Have you ever tried cutting out the sugar, the gluten, and casein from your diet? It makes a really really big difference for me, and for my kids. I just wish I'd figured it out sooner. You are very young, and you have lots of time to turn things around. Life doesn't have to suck. It can be good. Really it can. And you can learn how to have fun. It's never too late to learn how to have fun.
you want a nice girl to sit down with you yet you stated in another thread that you get offended when people ask to sit with you I'm sorry, you just send out some conflicting messages and it's hard to extrapolate what it is you truly want. I'd check out mamaboogie's advice, cut down or out the sugar/caffeine in your diet, it can screw ya up good if you have too much of it.
I've never heard of a college didn't have counselling available to students. when I eat gluten, I get pissed off at the world. And I know how it feels to think the world is laughing at you behind your back. I know what you are talking about, and I know what helps *me* feel better. diet makes a huge difference. It wouldn't hurt anything to give it a try. Just like it won't hurt anything to see the on-campus psychologist. You can be just as miserable as you want to be, or you can do something about it and learn how to have fun and enjoy life. The choice is up to you.
now *that* ^^ was totally uncalled-for!! Autism isn't the same as mental retardation. It does socially inhibit people, though, and creates huge problems making and keeping friends. Many autistic people are very extremely intelligent, which is another hindrance to functioning in our screwy society that thinks anyone or anything different is "bad" somehow. Chris needs to get over the fact that schools teach us to conform and follow the leaders and never question authority. He needs to realize that what makes him different is not a bad thing, it is a gift, something to be embraced. He needs to learn how to use his being different to his advantage. This isn't something you can just figure out by posting on internet forums, especially when the majority of people have no clue what it is he's going through or what it's like to be that way. Anger management won't help, either, but having someone to talk to surely will. Someone who won't tell him there's something wrong with him or try to change him, but someone who will just sit there and listen and be there for him when he needs them. He needs someone who can see the potential in him, and help him figure out how to become all that he can be. The anger isn't something he can control. But he can control the things that make it worse. Allergens, in particular, make it really hard to function in society. They make the body feel bad, but not always bad enough that you recognize it. And feeling bad all the time makes you grouchy. When you are already agitated and irritated and grouchy, any little thing can push you over the edge and make you explode. Sensory defensiveness is something he can control, by avoiding things that irritate him, by learning ways of overcoming the overstimulation that triggers the anger and other feelings. It's totally doable, Chris. I just wish I'd figured it all out twenty years ago... If not a counsellor, maybe seek out the help of an occupational therapist who has experience with sensory defensive people. Honestly, what do you have to lose?
Wow, you are such a prick. Jesus, man. And honestly, what is more retarded than having that huge fucking picture of yourself on every post.
are you sure you're not somewhat paranoid? i don't really know any guys who make fun of what other guys wear, and if i did, i'm probably make fun of them for being such a chick.
Hey, Chris, guess what? I have Asperger's too, although it was not officially diagnosed until last month. I was hyperlexic (read at eighteen months); was overintelligent and never had any mates through school; in nursery school, would build castles out of blocks and wall myself alone inside them! Now I do the same thing, just without blocks ... For a while I felt as if I could never change. Then I realized I WOULD never change if I didn't take initiative. So I did see a counselor ... didn't "change my life" or anything really, it was just nice to know that someone out there didn't regard me as a freak. Rather than letting the counselor change my life, I walked out of the office every week and made efforts to change *MYSELF.* That is the point of counseling ... many peple overlook that. And sure, my life sucks -- pretty hard core, I daresay. But yet it doesn't get me down. I am still prone to "weirdness" and building castles out of invisible blocks ... I still don't have many friends, in fact really just two or three and they are as f*cked up as I am if not more ... but that really doesn't phase me anymore. I know that life WILL get better, maybe next month, maybe next week, maybe tomorrow, maybe even five minutes from now -- but it WILL get better and I am strong enough to weather it. Now, PLEASE know that I am not trying to imply that I am better than you are ... I am just letting you know that there IS hope if you go looking for it. Best of luck, chap ... I hope you find peace very soon! - K PS: Jester ... since huge pictures seem to offend you, I apologize for mine. It just happened to come out that way. Perhaps that is what happened to Chris's picture as well.
I was blessed enough to have a mother whose job is childhood psychology. One of her friends counseled me in high school. Once I came to university, I received my counseling through the University Counseling Center ... every college and uni has one, to my knowledge, and generally it is very good. If you ask around looking for yours, no one is going to give you funny looks ... at least, any more than anyone ever gives funny looks. (People seem to be very good at this, by the way. Half of them, maybe even most of them, mean nothing by it. ) The counselors have always asked me about my particular current circumstance: what classes I am taking, what sort of friends I have (if any), what sort of social and/or academic problems I am facing, and so forth. Then they help me work through them, step by step. I have found it quite helpful! Chris, I do not necessarily think you "need" counseling, but truly I know it couldn't hurt. In fact, I have a strange suspicion that it will help! This is not because you are crazy (I am not crazy, after all, at least not more so than anyone else), but because a little help can't hurt anyone, ever. Search around your campus a wee bit ... make like an undercover agent. I am sure you will find your Uni's counseling quite easily. Keep us posted! We care.
Do you want help, or not? There's a tradeoff for everything. Bite the bullet and get on with it. All the best.
here's the deal, Chris. When I first realized I am autistic, as is my oldest child, I did not want help "fixing" it. I thought that would mean changing who I am, who my kid is, deep down inside, and that thought really depressed me. I'm not broken, I do not need to be cured. And I was pissed off as hell about it. But that's not at all what we're talking about. It's not about making you be just like everyone else, that won't ever happen no matter how hard you try or what you do. It is about addressing the things that are causing you emotional pain, making you unhappy and pissed off at the world. It took me a year after the realization that I am autistic (though mildly) before I started addressing what bothers me and prevents me from having any friends and functioning in society. If it weren't for my kids, I'd just move away from everyone and live the life of a hermit. But I can't do that, so I'm learning to deal in other ways instead. The biggest change has come about from diet. It's hard to believe, but eating gluten and sugar caused probably 90% of all my problems. I'm also allergic to dairy, but it doesn't seem to cause the same problems, or not on the same level, that gluten/wheat and sugar cause me. I still haven't managed to seek out the help of a counsellor or therapist, but I know that's what I should do.... I honestly believe that would be best for you, as well. You are so young, you don't have to live like this if you don't want to!! You don't have to wait until you are in your mid thirties before you start making changes in your attitude, which will totally change your life...for the better.
