So there is this girl at uni, shes been hanging around with our group for a while and I have been seeing her for almost every day in these past couple of weeks. I think shes gorgeous and a very nice person from what I've seen so far.. She is the VERY shy type though, she would barely say anything when we were all hanging out. I randomly started a conversation with her one day and talked about how we did on the recent mid terms and such and we laughed a little. I also noticed how she became the one engaging the conversation once I started talking to her which was surprising to me since she barely spoke when she hanged around with us. Anyway I admit I feel a little attraction to her, but no way I want to be attached at this time..Maybe I want to ask her out subconsciously but consciously I know that its not going to do me any good to be or pursue a relationship at this time , if anything it will probably do damage. I guess this is more of just letting my thoughts out than asking for advice...but I do have a question.. Now we only share a couple of classes and I don't get to see her as much as I'd like to, so how do I get to know her better? I am thinking of asking her to give me her phone number or email address since I hate phones, but does that seem too ehh I don't know too soon? Considering that I just want to get to know her better. Also I have no idea if shes interested in the first place. Edit: That probably sounded too conflicting .. but it is what it is I guess :\
first and foremost to get this straight you want nothing more than friendship?? i would get her ph. number because email you can take things totally the opposite way in how things sound Ask her out for coffee after classes theres lots of ways just make sure you communicate very clearly that you want nothing more or else you will hurt not only yours but her feelings as well. Because when your ready she may be the one for you .. you just never know;-)
Exactly!..I just don't feel I am ready yet, and at the same time I don't want her to slip away I am definitely interested..I want to start out as friends first I am not sure though how I can communicate that to her, .I'll offer her a ride home tomorrow since she lives near by and ask for her number if I get the chance to see her. We'll see how it goes, maybe she isn't even interested. Thanks for reading and replying
I agree with the post above, just make yourself avaible for a good friendship, then when your ready she may be too. But don't leave her too long or someone else might get her
