Is she in denial? Or what? and how to deal with this?

hi. There is this girl who i have been hooking up with in college for quite some time now, we are/were good friends as well… ( and she made all of the moves on me) and she has refused to say she is anything but straight ( which is fine by me if she isnt comfortable admitting it). The main reason i think we became friends and she wanted to become so close to me was bc i told her ive been with guys and girls, then admitted i am a lesbian, and ever since then hings took off for the past 8 months. We have been making out hardcore, sleeping and cuddling together, etc. After we would wakeup and have some deep convos she would say like ” ur right we are all just human” etc etc. And when drunk screamed “Woo LGBT” ” WOOHOO LGBT”…. then other times says “IM CONFUSED/// but no im so straight I am SO comfortable with who i am….but IM CONFUSED BC ive never done what we do with another girl before…!” etc. She gets openly jealous when other people hit on me, etc and it is so clear there are feeelings there on both of our ends….. however recently she has been distant and avoiding me and using tons of defense mechanisms and projecting her gay thoughts onto other ppl calling them gay ( when they arent)…. and tried telling me that she knows i have sooo many feelings for her ( even when i told her no ).. She has been distant and “seeking the Lord”. (She is latina/Christian)… well now things have really exploded bc she is freaking out and being distant kinda refusing to hang out with me. it seems she is heavily conflicted. but yah she said like ” I KNOW YOU HAVE FEELINGS FOR ME I AM NOT AN UNDERCOVER LESBIAN I AM SO CONFIDENT WITH WHO I AM ETC ETC” trying to blame me for everything that has happened ( when she made all the moves for the past like 8 months we have been making out hardcore, etc. And she would call me her girlfriend sometimes & told me she told her mom im her lesbian girlfriend, and i got kinda mad at her because that isnt really true AND i didnt want her mom knowing bc i didnt want her to think differently of me cuz i dont even know her mom. Why would she tell her mom that?... Lollll soooo….. what is your advice on how to deal with somebody who is in such deep denial and using so many defense mechanisms?? ( and do you think that is the case here?)… and did you or anyone you know ever act like this?? thanks ( btw i am a lipstick lesbian 22 yrs old, she's 21)

 

Sounds like her mom lowered the religious guilt and possible blackball threat boom to get her daughter back in line.

Her mom is right in that keeping her options open for now and avoiding labels is a good idea..in Latino families, such things aren't discussed.
If you are orientation-unconventional, you are expected to keep a lid on it.

Don't worry..sounds like she is hard core in love with you, and if you play it cool and go on with your life, she'll come around, flirting with you.
Just let her make all the moves and refuse to take any blame or discuss it and she'll probably be back to cuddling you once she realized SHE is the one in love.

IF you want her back.
Might consider acting like you've moved on, be very casual,
to make sure she knows it's not OK to blame your friends for your own behavior.

But do whatever you want

Just saying.

 

She's in denial for sure .