Is sex a spiritual journey?

Alright, so, yesterday, I was at a friend's house with my boyfriend and we were going to watch a movie and as a joke, my friend put in a porn DVD. It was the first porn I've ever seen aside from amature short clips online and still photography. I couldn't even sit through the first even sexual scene, as soon as the girl started giving the guy a blowjob, I was out of there. It just made me so angry. At the time I really didn't understand why I reacted that way, but I've been giving it some thought and I realized that sex is a very spiritual thing to me and it was almost as though I was watching something making a complete mockery of it. Now, I know there are a ton of threads on people's opinions on porn, but this isn't so much my feelings towards porn as it is the fact that I realized just how highly I regard sex.

I'm not a religious person by any means, so I guess sex is the most spiritual thing I have. I've been with three partners and while each was special, my boyfriend now and I have this amazing connection and every time we make love, it's absolutely beautiful and it just feels so perfect and so right. I apologize if this is a completely cheesey way to view sex, but it's like a religious experience to me. It never was until now, probably because I am completely and totally in love (and the love is mutual), and before I just thought I was. I get completely swept up emotionally and mentally and while the physical aspect is great, I get so much more out of the psychological aspects.

Basically, my reasoning for sharing this with you guys is to ask if anyone else who hangs out here feels that sex is almost a religious or spiritual experience and if they have anything to add about why it feels that way to them. Thanks for putting up with my blabbering, hehe.

 

I don't know if 'religious' fits, but 'spiritual' certainly does. All the great mystics have feared it (with a few exceptions - Theresa of Avilon, for example.) If there is a bond of understanding, beyond explanation, I call it spiritual. Sex introduced into that bond becomes part of the explanation. I don't want to qualify it too much or the bond gets lost in words; but, yes, sex CAB BE a spiritual experience for those fortunate enough to recognize it. I think. Others see relationships too casually for my taste!

 

Wonderful insight Kinky Ramona. I feel the same way: that sex is--or should be--a natural and beautiful expression of love. For some reason, we as a society have decided to suppress our sexual instincts, to be ashamed of them. As a result, a vital part of human nature has turned into a dark world of perversion.

I don't think sex is "spiritual," I think you're simply experiencing it the way it was intended. We all should be so lucky.

R

PS I think I've been through Fritch. Isn't it north of Amarillo?

 

um, okay..porn is entertainment..shouldnt take it too heart... having sex with the one you love, yeah, thats is more then just sex and stuff...
But porn is just porn, its entertainment and I dont feel its making a mockery out of sex at all... but thats just me...

 

I agree with shroom...

 

I think sex is a psychology "journey", so to speak.

I wrote a piece called "Sexually Altered States" once, and I am extremely interested in the psychological aspect of sex and sexual thoughts and fantasies.

I am currently writing about the Four Sexual Natures I perceive in humans.

 

It must be....plenty of people seem to shout "oh god" while doing it

 

I'm the one who heard him cry out last night. He said "God, God, God..." three or four times. And when I got there I put my hand into the bed and felt his feet. And they were cold as stone. And I checked the rest of his body. And it too was as cold as stone...

 

Alright, before anybody gives me shit about that last post, it's from My Own Private Idaho.

 

Yeah, Fritch is a crappy little town north of Amarillo. Thanks everyone for your insight. I suppose porn is intended for entertainment and don't get me wrong, I've got nothing against people who do enjoy it or those who make it, but I, personally, can't even make myself watch it. I hope that doesn't make me seem close-minded, I did attempt to watch it, lol.

 

Sex is unexpressionally spiritual for me, it defines a huge part of
my religion, but sometimes SOMETIMES, i just wanna watch people fuck.

Like i have said before, Wine is sacred to Catholics, but sometimes
they just wanna get drunk.

There is a balance there.

 

i think sex is like tripping; its as deep or shallow, healing or novel as you choose it to be. i definitely agree that sex is something instinctively spiritual. regardless of an individual's history, i think everyone feels something larger (no pun intended) than ordinary life when they do it. That is not going anywhere--i dont think people will ever stop thinking of sex, at least at first, as something special. on the other hand, if sex is like tripping, porn is like watching a DVD of fractal images and swirlly patterns: its all the appeal and none of the substance of the experience. But that doesn't mean theres anything wrong with watching a DVD of pretty colors, it just shouldn't be confused with the real experience. a girl on tv giving a blowjob is a totally different idea than two people in real life who love each other doing the same thing. one's a novelty of entertainment, and the other is one of the few true spiritual experiences an individual can come to grips with, on an almost completely individual (ALMOST as in 2 ppl needed, not 1) basis. if the two aren't confused, everything should go smoothly if you ask me. remember the words of the Tao Te Ching: "Bend, and You Will Be Straight."

 

That's a very good way of looking at it, thank you for sharing, Blue Shoe. By the way, I'm a huge Mitch Hedberg fan. Hehe.

 

sex is deffinatley a spiritual thing for me.

 

Or, maybe you're just a prude?

I don't know. Just throwing out ideas here.

Sex can be funny too. Ever think about your parents/teachers/doctors/policemen having sex? (whether all together or seperately) I have, and it's hilarious! Oh my the floodgates that thought just opened...

 

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Ha...I'm far from a prude. I don't know, maybe I was just angry because my friend was being a dick about it anyway and I took it out on the movie. Anyway, I guess some people have a taste for it and some don't and I guess I'm one of those who don't.

 

Porn can get me off quickly... but it doesn't fulfull me in the least. Once you've been spiritually satisfied, you can't go back to being just physically satisfied without feeling like you're missing something, or that you're not being true to yourself.

 

i def. agree with that. i think you can tell which is which by whether or not what you experienced lasts longer than the experience itself or not. after i get off with porn (usually), i feel like 10 mins. just went by and i could have done something more productive, even if i felt like i NEEDED it 10 mins ago. sex, on the other hand, should make you feel great long after it's over, or at least if you're having sex with someone you love, because its a healing process. however, i still say if you keep the whole thing in perspective and dont go looking for emotional healing in porn, you can take it at face value, at least get the momentary relief out of it sometimes, and discard the experience as something novel afterwards. i think that's probably the only way to watch porn: have fun and get the hell out of there before you take it seriously and feel empty.

 

I agree...Sex to me is also an emotional thing too...