Is it possible to have more than one true love in your life?

Discussion in 'True Love' started by sugarplumplum, Jan 18, 2010.

  1. sugarplumplum

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    What do you think?
     
  2. Psychedelic Rocker

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    I believe in the soul mate thing.

    If your soul mate passes on...someone else could be waiting.

    So, yes ''true love'' can happen twice in a lifetime.

    But really, this is a tricky question.

    Finding true love is the hard thing - because people and times change.

    True love is a precious treasure.

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  3. Bellanna

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    Love can take so many different forms. I believe we can love many different people and love them in so many different ways.
    I also feel that we are destined to have only one true soul mate throughout eternity.
    How many times have you been with someone wonderful that you should have fallen in love with and didn’t?
    How many times have you felt that it was almost perfect, but something most important was missing?
    I believe we should enjoy, respect and cherish everyone we meet on our quest for true love, everyone is special and wonderful but there is only one that will fill that emptiness of our souls. Lucky are the ones who find their way to each other.
     
  4. Piaf

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    Yeah, definitely.
     
  5. def zeppelin

    def zeppelin All connected

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    Alan Alda seems to think so and so do I. It's just a choice in which true love that you truly want to love! :biggrin:
     
  6. scratcho

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    We'll never know how many people we could truly love. There could be literally thousands and thousands of very compatible people that we'll never meet, but could love if given the chance. I have loved a few along the way.
     
  7. Bellanna

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    Sometimes I feel we have no choice. Other people need our love so we give it to them. I am so very much in love with my soul mate…but I have not met him (yet?).
    I have a wonderful partner, but he is not the one! I told him so many times and he always dismisses it. I love him as a brother, a best friend but I know he will never be “my eternal lover”.
    Is my soul mate hurt by my unfaithfulness, even though he does not know I exist?
     
  8. darthkacie

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    my fiance died christmas day of 08. he was the perfect person for who I was then, and I always believed I'd find a perfect person for who I am now.
    it happened, about six months ago, and I'm crazy happy. I'll love PJ forever, but I know he wouldn't want that to mean loving him at the expense of finding happiness again.
     
  9. thedope

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    No, but it is possible to truly love more than one.
     
  10. Psychedelic Rocker

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    Wow....sorry to hear about that darthkacie. It's nic to see you could move on. Some people never recover. It all depends on the individual.

    congrats.
     
  11. knottygrl

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    ...this is different than a soulmate. I believe the latter is a kindred, like-minded soul that is drawn to one's own soul like a magnet...this could be a best friend, a loyal dog or a romantic lover. As far as romantic love goes, sure why not, I think it all depends on your own heart.
     
  12. YouFreeMe

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    The concept of "true love" is connotative of a singular person. By definition there can be only one.
     
  13. Fastswitch

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    A love affair of thirteen years ago still haunts me. I'll never be able to disavow the warmth, the joyous feeling or the desire she stoked in my psyche. I've moved on for good reason, but I'll always love her. I hope to fall in love again; matter of fact, I'm depending on it!!
     
  14. thedope

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    That may be your concept, but the words true love have a definition that has nothing to do with numbers of participants, but the quality of love itself.
     
  15. The Imaginary Being

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    No, 'cos if you find a second 'true love', that completely diminishes the first relationship. If you found your true love and lost them thereafter no one would be as good.
     
  16. thedope

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    Your talking about people you love not about love itself. I have true love for my children, all three of them, and my love for one does not diminish my love for the others.
     
  17. The Imaginary Being

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    I understand that and I can see you point overwhelmingly

    But with all due respect, I figure this question is asking about a romantic sensibility and maybe not a motherly or fatherly love.

    I mean, we are calling this true love, not true loves. And if we were talking about true love and people's kids then this question wouldn't be asked- every parent with more than one would say the same thing and it would render the question futile.

    I believe there is only one true love. I can honestly say I really feel that. I have felt it in fact, and I say that after some great subsequent partners afterwards. But there was one girl, when I was young, and honestly the emotions I felt for her felt more mature then, at like 15, than they ever have since over a decade later. I can't believe that my heart was wasted there, I honestly will not have that emotionally intensity with anyone else.

    It doesn't matter what I say anyways. Anyone who disagrees with me will probably understand what I mean when it happens to them, which it will.

    And those who have found more than two true loves? Heh, pop them both in life threatening circumstances and see which one you would save :p
     
  18. thedope

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    Imaginary being, I share your sense of the "original" love. I see it in myself and it was generated at the same age. The image is an archetypical bonding, like when infant animals bond to the first influence they experience.
    I am not speaking of love in terms of the sentimental nature but as an overarching force that informs our life. There is only one love, true or otherwise.
     
  19. phoenixsun

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    i disagree, 'true love' to me means unconditional love, selfless love
    i believe you can have this for more than one person (romantically or otherwise)

    i myself am in love with two different people at the moment. neither is my partner, as i don't want to be tied down, nor do i wish to tie either of the other people involved down. but they are both aware of the depth of my feeling for them, and i know they both love me in their own ways also

    when i say i am in love with them, i mean that i would do absolutely anything for either of them if it meant it would make their lives easier, happier or longer. that's part of why i don't wish to tie anyone down - i have too much still to learn by myself to commit to any one person or expect any one person to commit to me.

    my love for one person does not dimish my love for another person, nor for myself. that's why i disagree with the concept of 'one true love' - i don't have some kind of 'amount' of love inside of me that once i give away is gone and i can't love on the same level again. love is infinite, in endless supply and not in any way limited unless we limit it ourselves.
    also, love has nothing to do with rose coloured glasses, infatuation or imagining someone is perfect. when i say that i love someone it means that i can see their shortcomings as well as their greatness, that i accept all of it, and that i love them for all of it.

    imaginary being - if both of my loves were in life threatening situations i would hope that i could evaluate the situation well enough to save one so they could then help me to save the other. thankfully that kind of situation is so unlikely i doubt i would ever have to make such a heart wrenching choice!
     
  20. alnser

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    Love has many different forms of Xi else, but when we love someone and decide to be a partner in our lives should love strongly and betrayed and that we are faithful to this love This is what

    darthkacie : We should not stop when someone dies had a special place to which we have not Tokhaddh death does not come, so I advise you to find someone who is worthy of love and back to Trdjai
     

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