is it possible to have girl mates(no love or sex) ?

hi,
i was just wondering if its possible to have good girl mates? no sex no love.

the only time i've tried i fell in love with my girl mate without having the intention.

 

yeah that seems to be a trend

 

I suppose....but it seems that good buddies (girl & boys) always end up falling for each other...such as i have

 

I think it's possible. I've had many boy flatmates and friends over the years, and we will never be more than just good mates.

 

Over the years I have had countless male friends that I never fell in love with or slept with. I have also had male friends that fell in love with me causing the end of the friendship. So yeah, it is possible but not every time. In my opinion it seems like it is easier to maintain a friendship with someone of the opposite sex if you are in a relationship with someone else. It can still happen, but I have less male friends trying to date me now that I am married.

Good luck

Hope that made sense....can't sleep

 

Nothing is impossible, my friend...some things are just very unlikely.

 

personally... no.

 

i've had plenty of guy buds. i've fallen for a couple, but some of them are strictly just buddies. i think it can happen.

 

I seem to have more verry dear friends than Ive had lovers....but I wouldnt trade them for anything in this life !!!!

 

hell yes its possible
ihave lotsa girl freinds one of my cosest freinds in fact, but she is a lesbiann somaybe thats y..lol
but nah i have lotsa close straight girl freinds
i love em all..but not in love with any
probly could happen isupose ..but iguess its a matter of wether u think of em as a freind 1st or as a girl 1st
really though most of my closer freinds are women..& outta a couple dozen ifcan only think of 1 id ever even concider as possibly a romantic type thing with..but..if ever it drifted that way, i'd hafta think long &hard b4 id ever concidrr letting it cross that line
hell some started off as more of a attraction & ended up in the freindship realm
iguess though when id meet a new person (yea girls are people too) i might have alitttle curiosity & hope that it might end up as being a romance, if theresa strong connection there..
realy tho u cant have love without freindship..or freindship without love..so it really comes doewn to wether or not you allow yourself toconcider thinkking about a more physical relationship
simple rule..guys..ya just dont gotta wanna fuck every girl u see..or u could miss out on a freindshipthat could last a lifetime

 

Bravo, soaringeagle , you voiced my thought totally !!!!!!!!

 

If you even have to ask this, you're an idiot.

 

Personally, if I couldn't have female friends, I'd be incredibly lonely. Almost all of my "mates" or "buds" or whatever term you care to use are female. I just don't let the desire to get laid ruin my judgement and so the friendship. I can look at a lot of women and have that brief flash of "you know, she looks like she'd be really fun to mess up the sheets with", but you keep your mouth shut because you don't have to act on every stupid male impuse that crosses your mind. The average male has a sexual thought every 15 seconds. When you have female friends you hang around, this means that yes, you will likely have a sexual thought about your female friend. But if you tell her about it, it will likely creep her out and then cause problems and can ultimately screw the friendship. So I just don't let the random testosterone-driven image just fall out of my mouth, and so I have lots of good female friends, despite the fact that the majority of them look enticingly beddable.

In short, that's a "yes".

 

yeah! that's possible but you can never tell the end...

 

there are many men that i have love for & are a part of my every day life and know me better than i know myself. and even after living together, seeing each other naked, seeing each other at our absaloute best & absaloute worse, we still remain good friends and nothing more. however there have been a few that had a lil crush on me

 

i have plenty of girl friends who i don't sleep with! hahaha.... and many guy friends i don't sleep with as well.

 

It's harder not to want more especially if they're attractive, but I think it's a good thing to have female friends, because they're not competitive and they can keep you grounded.

 

Whenever a guy befriends a girl, he's angling to get into her pants.

Because the fact of the matter is, no girl can ever be a friend to a guy like another guy is.

There are exceptions - I've known maybe 4 girls in my life that meet the criteria of being friend worthy (although I did wind up hooking up with all of them). But girls, don't assume you make the grade. Odds are you don't.

 

Do Co-workers count ?