Ok, I haven't seen my mother for over 38 years.. I know where she lives, although I've never been to see her... The thought actually scares the living F**K out of me! She's been gay since 1986, never smiles, never gives out any affection, and never talks about herself.. I am 95% certain that she was responsible for me having "Severe Ricketts and Extreme Malnutrition".. And broken bones, bruises and a couple of cigarette burns, at the age of just 8 months.. So you are me.. Standing on her doorstep just as she opens the door to you... What is the VERY FIRST THING you say to her???? Oh, and this is actually a game!
Ok...try saying Hi....and give her a smile....Mom's are human...and we make mistakes. You dont know what was going on at the time when you were younger , I dont condone abuse...its never ok....but..give her a chance. The person she was then might be gone by now...and she might be totally different. Shes your Mom....you nor she can change that !!
Ok.......Im sorry....Im a mom.....and its hard for me to put myself in the same posistion as yours because I could never even spank a child....I was just trying to help...Im sorry.
No, I'm sorry... Didn't mean it to sound like it did.. So, back to those rules! I'm after ONE LINE.. I can't be offended, and neither can she... You can say ANYTHING you want to her, and you can bet your bottom dollar she's not going to say anything until you do... SHOOT!
OK since this is just a game, I'll be viscious... "Hi, I don't know if you remember me? I'm that kid you tried to kill..." BTW..out of curiosity, how old was she and were you given up or taken away? Yep, I'm damn nosey.
As someone who recently met one of his biological parents, let me say this. No matter what you practice in your head, on the net, or in front of the mirror, it will not go as planned, and you'll probably be standing there looking and feeling like an idiot trying to think of something terrible to say only to continue looking and feeling like an idiot. not a cool game...
Except that it IS only a game.. I have absolutely no intention of approaching her, and she has no intention of asking for me, except, I'm told possibly on her deathbed.. Given a choice of who is going to be made to look an idiot and totally uncomfortable with the situation if it ever happens, who do you think has the greater right? On with the game I say!
"Remember me, bitch?" *cocks gun and pulls trigger* That's what I feel like saying to my dad. I haven't seen him in over 5 years, even though he lives less than a mile from my house. He's too busy smoking crack and meth to give a fuck about coming to see me. But I have to say, if I had never met my mom/dad, I wouldn't really give a fuck about them. They wouldn't even be on my mind after 38 years.
That'd actually be a little funny. Y'know, I kind of understand the anger and frustration that you have towards your mother; even though I haven't been abused from my own parents, I have experienced abuse in my family, and dealing with that is kind of a hurdle, to say the least. It had taken me a long while to come to terms with what I had been through with that abuse, but the point is is that I actually have come to terms with it. Even though I'm still angry over what happened, I'm not angry at the person any more. It's one of those "love the sinner, hate the sin" sort of situations. If you were to approach your mother, as angry as you may be towards her, reacting in anger won't heal anything or undo what happened. My honest opinion is be the bigger person and find a way to forgive her for it.
maybe you could hip-check her when she's on her way to her car or something, then before the paramedics arrive tell her you're even and leave.
dave has never met or spoken to his dad. he got a photo once. he met two half brothers by accident when he was a teenager. his dad called the house once, he left a message with me that dave never returned. he's just totally uninterested.