intact virgin

Discussion in 'Genitalia' started by johnf24, Aug 4, 2009.

  1. johnf24

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    Hello everyone, i am new to the forum, but i was wondering if anyone could help me out with a little bit of an embarrassing question. I am over 18 and am still a virgin (and male) i'm not a social outcast, i just think i have been afriad to have sex, mainly because of my genitalia. I wasn't circumsized and the only sex i am farmilar with is oral sex, which so far has always been comfortable, despite having a some what tight foreskin. I can retract my foreskin all the way when flaccid but not when erect, which is my main concern, i am afraid that the first time i have sex with a girl that it will hurt me. I also fear that i will not be able to penetrate with out discomfort because of this, the vagina seems like such a small, tight place to put my penis into. Anyway i was jsut wondering if i should expect discomfort due to my intact foreskin, which is a little tight, but from what i know, not debilitatingly tight.
    Ps, since i am in college and still a virgin, you think my current girlfriend will think of me as pathetic for not loosing it sooner, or could i get away with out her even realizing i have never done it before. Thank you all
     
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  3. PineMan

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    First of all there is nothing wrong with being a virgin, regardless of your gender.

    Secondly, you should never allow yourself to be forced into losing your virginity purely because of peer pressure.

    Personally, apart from mutual masturbation sessions with friends during my adolescence, I didn't lose my virginity until I was 23 - and even then it was due to being molested - I suppose, technically raped - by a 40 year old nymphomaniac - an incident which I later came to look back on with gratitude.

    I'm also Bi (about 80% Straight, 20% Gay), but wasn't until about 3 years ago when I plucked up the nerve to go through with a Gay Sex Date via AdultFriendFinder.com, where I lost my Gay virginity. Since then I've been through with many more sexual encounters, both Gay & Straight, nearly all of them from Online Swinger Sites (such as AFF & SilverDaddies.com), but others from getting to know partners via IRC sites - you'd be surprised at how many people there are out there, of all genders & sexualities, who are also simply looking for no-strings-attached sexual encounters.

    Most importantly, though, when you do come to lose your virginity, do it because it's what YOU want to do, not because you think it's something you should be doing in order to fit in (no sexual pun intended).
     
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    thanks, i'm more worried about what will happen when i do loose it, rather than when. I have read that peoples frenelums have broken and other serious damage occuring when intact people have sex for the first time, im worried that i am going to damage or hurt myself due to my tight foreskin, not so much the age at which i first have sex
     
  5. PineMan

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    Although the problem of a tight foreskin may be remedied by surgery ( either full circumcision or merely cutting of the frenulum, depending on degree), it may also be helped by the application of steroidal cream, along with gradual stretching - this will, naturally, require you to consult your doctor.

    As for experiencing any injury to the foreskin during penetration - this is highly unlikely. Whilst the sensation is obviously far better when the foreskin is retracted, allowing the glans to make full contact against the vaginal wall, if this is not physically possible then the penetration with still continue, with the foreskin still covering the glans, lubricated either by the natural bodily fluids of the vagina or, if these are limited (as is the case with some women), some additional lubricant, such as KY.

    If you do have difficulty in retracting your foreskin, then I would advise that you consult your doctor because if you do require surgery, then the sooner you have it done, the longer you have to heal before getting to put it to use.
     
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