Hi all, I’m new here. I’m a 45 yr young guy from The Netherlands. Healthy, handsome, smart, successful, etc. I’m in a relationship for 8 yrs now with my gf. I am very insecure sexually. In my life since I turned 18 (first time sex) I had less than 100 times sex. Had a total of 4 relationships, one of them a marriage. But with every relationship I had no more than a max of 5 times a year sex. All my exes and current one had many exciting experiences, naughty things, public sex etc etc. I on the other hand, never had sex outside my own bed and no other position than missionary. My gf knows sex and is very creative, as I recently got to know a part of her sexual past. It sounds like she was in a movie, hahaha! But wow, the things she did made me feel even more insecure. I can’t stop comparing myself to her past and past lovers. I even started to envy and respect them. I have an average sized cock and he is perfectly healthy. But I can’t perform. I don’t have the guts to start the sex. I don’t even dare to ask if she is in the mood. So overall, I don’t have much sex, I don’t change positions, I definitely don’t dare to try new things and I feel overwhelmed with her and my exes pasts. Does anyone have the same? How can I reset or something? Is there something wrong with me? I have been seeing a phsychologist but it didn’t help. Maybe this is just it for me…
Welcome! Again as said communication is the key! Talk with her through this and find out deep within yourself what inhibitions are keeping you from this. I’m sure you will get others responding. You might consider reading @OliviaEverly blogs which are very insightful and true about our natural senses. Enjoy and keep us posted! ;-)
