Im only 14 but i truely think im in love.when im with him he makes me feel like im everything, he is the nicest sweetest guy in the world.he always tell me how wunderful and beautiful i am.i dont know, the only problem is that hes 18.so and we cant be together together, no matter how much we want to be.i know that when your in love that age doesnt matter and it doesnt matter to me it just matters to everyone else.i dont know what to do.
dont rush.let things grow naturaly..be patient..your very young..& hes older but still young.... let the freindship develop..cause to be truly in love you need to truly understand eachother.. at your age (yea & even at mine somewhat) its essy to mistake attraction for love.. realy spend time just talking & getting to know eachother..,,its better to lnow if youd really get along before your in to deep & get hurt..
A bunch of people are going to say you are too young to be in love, or that he is a creep for dating someone four years his junior... bullshit, the feelings you have are real and his hopefully are too. You should though remember 1) You have plenty of time, so don't do something stupid like getting pregnant-even if you think you want to it is a stupid thing to do at your age even if you love him. 2) People change, your love may not last forever. That doesn't mean you shouldn't enjoy the time you have together now. 3) Some folks will assume he is using you just because of your age. At your age you have so much time. I would definately make him wait at least a year for sex to make sure he is on the level. In fact he probably isn't even allowed to legally have sex with you depending on the laws. They are bullshit of course but I wouldn't want to risk having my parents sending him to jail if I were in your shoes.
As an anti-ageist, one of the first things I say would be to follow your heart. Another thing, and perhaps very important especially in a relationship where an age difference is an issue, is actually to try and get the parents of both sides to be supportive of your relationship. If that isn't an option, I suppose certain secrecy would have to keep you out of trouble...though, I hate to sound as though I'm promoting dishonesty when we're talking about something beautiful like a romantic relationship. Another thing is the safety precaution used while being intimate. I've already mentioned this in another thread, and you've replied your affirmative to my encouraging you on the use of protection, so I won't worry here. Other than that, at least for me, 4 years difference is really not that big. It may seem big now, but in a few years, it'll be very minor. Congrats!
i know some of you wont like what i say but i dont care... i think the 18 year old really shouldnt be messing with a 14 year old...14 is just so young, but this is merely my opinion and no one give me shit cause i will ignore it... and i know in another thread you two have already have had sex...which he could go to jail for... four years isnt that big of a deal..but when you are 14 it is...
i gotta agree with you. 14 is too young. if the thread starter does care about her lover she will not let him run the risk of being branded a paedophile (spelling???), and also going to jail. i am not saying that two people can't love each other just because one is a minor, i'm just saying look out for your bf because society will not understand or appreciate your situation.
how long have you guys already been together? Has he changed at all through the whole "relationship"?
i agree with mystical_shroom. This 18 year old boyfriend of yours is at another stage in his life, and speaking from what i have seen, experienced and gone through myself, when you're 14, you cant really know what love feels like. Love is not feeling butterflies or living in a rose bubble...love is commitment, respect, understandng, for better or worse....you cant possibly say that you're ready to experience all this, you have so much to live in the next few years. I dont want to sound patronising, but when i was 14, i thought i had fallen in love with this guy who was 6 years older than me. I was completely infatuated by him, all i could think about was him. Everything i did i did it thinking about him, did so many crazy things too. but i was young and i was feeling loved. that made me feel over the moon. In a nutshell, this guy broke my heart, but i got older and wiser and it made me realise how naive i was back then. face it, when you're a teen, you think you know everything!!!! anyway, anything that might be said here wont really change the way you feel about this guy, but just be careful of what you give and most imporatantly, respect yourself. Now I look back and i would never trust my 14 year old self with an 18 year old individual. I was 18 once and had several boyfriends who were 18 later on and believe me, most of them are not ready. just be careful and if you have sex with him, use protection.
hmmm this is dificult, are you 15 before hes 19? because 15-18 doesnt seem to bad and i know people with that relationship, i think if the 2 people seriously like eachother for who they are and not age and treating eachother well then its not sick at all and good luck to you
