im such a good person. all bad things happen to me. why?

didnt know where to post my poor life story, in the end i've chosen to post it here.

im such a good person with a pure heart but all bad things happen to me. why?

im a very good type of person, for ex:
-would share my food/stuffs with others
-would let other people off the bus first
-give up my seat to elderlies
-protect animals
-be honest with eveyone
-help out my friends and other people
-invite people for dinner
-respect smoking/non smoking places
-not throw away anything in the street. will always try to find a bin
-care for others
-threat people with respect
-not play music aloud at night
-not cheat on my girlfriends
-pay my bills on time
-not lie
-do favors for other
-lend money to my friends when needed
-always avoid fights with people
etc...

though this is what happened to me so far:
-my girlfriend has cheated on me
-anything electronic i buy such as mobilephones, laptop, always but always went faulty.
-my old friends never call or send an email to me
-always had and still have serious health problems

i mean is it because i dont practice religion and dont pray, or is it because i broke a mirrow a few years ago or is it because i do smoke and drink?

 

1) a poor me attitude doesn't help evoke any positive change in your life
2) when buying electronic shit, maybe invest in things that have warranties from here on in eh?
3) reach out to your friends so they can reach back
4) see a doctor, some of us are just born a little more faulty I think.

 

love, you really arnt the only one so please dont think that all bad things hppen to you. there are always people in worse off situations that you are & i always try & think of that when bad things happen to me.

i sometimes feal that all the eletrical equipment i buy are always faulty. nearly every mobile phone i had always have a problem. my latest one i had to change after two days & the one i have now that i've had for a month has problems but thats eletrical equipment for you. the are all riddled with faults just like humans nothing is perfect or will always run smothley.

i feel like you do about old friends, my old friends never call or send emails. dont feel bad about it, people change & dont always have the same interests as you did when you first knew them. its there loss if they dont want to contact you & know you. peoples lives are soo busy now days & you dont always have time to think about old friends. they get caught up in the moment of what they are doing now. just concentrate on the friends you have now, new friends are always round the corner.

i cant help with the girlfriend cheating as i have never done that & as far as i know my partner has never done it to me. i have found that people cheat one each other for various reasons but most of the time its due to lack of comunication in the relationship.

you sound like a good person & if you look to all the good things you do & keep a positive attitude you will attract positive & good people to you.

i dont think that these bad things happen to you because of religion or breaking a mirror. smoking & drinking may contribute to your health problems but because you havent said what the problems are i dont know.

 

ya already got plenty of good answers but all ican sayive had alotta the same exprerience only magnified i dont think i'll make lists or it'll take forever..
but i relly cant dwell on whats gone wrong when ialso got so much going right..& allthe good we dois a big part of whats going right

has nothing to do with god. or not praying it just is
every day u have a chance of something good or bad happen at any momment, but the more you do that makes you feel good about what you do the more good will come to you.. but theres alsoluck..& sometimes its just not on your side at times..luckhas ballence toothough, the more unlucky u re generaly the more lucky you will be when things swing your way

most of what ulisted are really minor things that happen to everyone...be happy only 1 evetr cheated..i';d say that your far luckier then you know

 

...yeah i bet the whining is a trait your girlfriend just loves about you....


wow your life really sucks...maybe you could write a book about your plight....or maybe it could really be a hardship like those who really suffer out there from hunger or being homeless or living in a dictatorship under a gun or in slavery or a major drug addiction or or or....

stop whining ...look around you have alot more then most of the people on this planet have or can have.....

 

took the words right out of my mouth mossy

We create our own realities, if you have a "poor me" attitude like ihmurria has already indicated, you're already taking a step in the wrong direction. If you think negative thoughts, negative things will happen to you. HOWEVER, if you are positive and light about things...good things will happen.

Not to get Nietzsche-n on you, but life and everything within it is based on interpretation. If you think about all the negative things...OF COURSE you're going to think everything is bad. However, what is GOOD in your life? Do you have food in your belly? Do you have a roof over your head? You obviously have the money to pay your bills...so...you're better off than a lot of the world population. Bet you make over a dollar a day at your job, huh?

Take a look at the big picture man, things aren't so bad.

 

Your life could be worse. If your always looking on the negitive side thats how you will always see things. shit happens, happens to all of us. Nothing is perfect.

 

Okay, I can't make a clear call on this one, but I'll offer a few "Yoda-isms" as someone called them on another forum.

1) You can't be treated like a doormat if you don't lay down.

2) Good guys may not always finish first, but at least they go to sleep with a clear conscience.

3) Life is what you make of it. Several people said it before... life tends to fulfill what we expect of it.

No magic quick-fix, but the best I can do when I left Frank Oz in my other suit.

 

thank you for your support guys...
its true that i do think negative all the time. i also do understand that i shoudnt complain that much since i do have a roof and got food in my stomach.

i know i'll be alright one day.

about my friends, you know i always been there for them but when i needed them none were present. is it because i didnt find the right friends? or maybe there is something wrong with me...

 

not gonna bother listen the good idolets just say alot.
but ok..your doin pretty damn good id say..i've gone weeks with nothing..
ever eat homemsade pasta for 2 weeks cause allya could afford was flour? ever have everything u owned stollen 4 days before christmas?
hey..ya got a girlfreind..i'm a very loving person..yet been alone a couple years now..
man..ya think ilet shit get me down? hell no.. its not worth it..some shit goues wrong ok it sux for a bit but it aint something u cant just handle & get over & make the next momment better..
damn ilove my life.. yea id lklike some thingfs to be better.. but it dont matter with everything i got thats good
& hell man ya got it alot easier then most
man..the closest ive ever had to like a career & not havin toworry bout bills & shit..went to school for computer programming even cut my dreads for it..which really sucked..at my graduation party broke my back..spent the same amount of time i did in school..in the hospitol.. forgot everything i learned plus was in no shape to even thinkof working & ended upin a wheelchair..
ya might thinkthat kinda sucks huh?
nope it sure as hell didnt..yea some things bout it suck..backs allways in pain..
but 2 weeks after i got out of the hospitol istarted flying gliders.. taking lessons & hell iwoulda never had that chance if allthat hadnt happened...
when everything ihad was stollen..ijust went on a wonderful trip..things happen for a reason..all good iss born from bad..

your alright already

could be you didnt choose the right freinds
i have freinds who iknow are there for me even if i dont see em for years..but know theyre always there for me
sometimes your freinds are really wrapped upin life to be in constant contact.. but..if u trytoreach out..are they there for you? if not, maybe they arent your freinds really..& ya should find better ones..but maybe if u r so negative u let every meanningless lil thing become a huge issue that could push away people whod really be there whenthere are real issues?
hey ever think your cell phone brealkin could be the best thing to happen to ya ?
if something seems bad..theres always a way it could be really just what uneeeded
icannot thinkof 1 bad event in my life that didnt have good consequences

 

ya know, the only people I've known in real life who say things like "I'm such a good person, but bad things always happen to me" are usually alcoholics who always have to blame someone or something else when things go wrong in their lives. Not saying you are like that at all, but that's exactly how you are coming across. Own your actions and take responsibility for the things that happen to you. Generally, the more someone claims to be a good person, the more they use and take advantage of other people. The first step in manipulating someone is to make them feel sorry for you. That sucks for the people around you, and no wonder they don't return your calls or emails. Luck doesn't really exist, you make your own "luck" good or bad, by your attitude and your actions.

 

1.) There is such a thing as being too nice, and being a doormat doesn't make you a good person.....being a good person does. To me a good person is someone that enriches my life, not someone I can take advantage of.

2.) Thinking negative thoughts all of the time is like asking for bad things to happen because you get so caught up in your pity party that eventually all you see is the negative.

3.) Most people could match your list for bad things that happened, so know that you are not alone, and there are A LOT of people that have it worse than you.

4.) Don't share your pity party with your friends because you will end up with no friends. Most friends are willing to listen, until every time they talk you it ends up a "poor me" session.

Advice: Find something that you think you might enjoy and try it. Don't say "but I don't enjoy anything" because if you think about it you do. The problem is that you have dug yourself a pit of despair and it takes less work to stay in it than to get out of it. Every day find something "good" to be happy about. It could be something as simple as remember how clean it smells after a good rain, or a really good movie you watched. Just try to have at least one happy thought, and then add another, and then another.....and after a while life starts sucking less.

Good luck!

 

I think your cursed... Cmon man, wake up and smell the coffee.

I think you should stop thinking so fucking hard..

 

Good things dont happen to good people, its complete bullshit. Life is life, why be a really good person and expect your life to be treated better than anyone elses? You choose how you live your life.

 

never stop doing good! as much as possible, BE YOURSELF! doing good things has not something to do with those bad things happened to your life... I do believe that everything happens for a reason.. so search for that reason why those bad things happened to you...

JUST ENJOY THE FLOW OF YOUR LIFE!
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