I'm sooo angry

So my boyfriend rented a beach house in a town about 20 minutes away for two weeks and he tells me that he cant chill tonight that hes just setting the place up with some friends. So he calls me up from a friends cell phone (his is dead) and I hear a RAGING party in the backround complete with many drunk female voices in the backround. I so upset. I asked him ealier today if any girls were coming over and he said no. What a liar. I am beyond pissed. Why couldnt he pick me up the town is fucking 10 miles away?!?!?!?!?

So here I am chilling alone at my house and he is out partying and getting drunk with other girls



AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!


sorry I needed to vent

 

let me guess....he's older than you

 

uhm dump him-no matter what he says dump him. you seem like you have been having tons of problems with this guy and do you really need this at 17?

 

Well yeah

 

i bet around the same age...i win i get a cigarette you an ice cream cone

 

He's 2 years older but very immature

 

most of them are at 20...sorry): trade up

 

I just wish I could call him but i cant cuz his phone is dead and i feel weird calling his friend and asking to speak to him...should i do it anyways?

 

ok....this only my opinion

you are not the main chick. having you there would cramp his action. he may very well care about you but he is attempting to play you in some manner. if it was all good, why wouldn't he want you there to have fun too? he must see your presence as some kind of hinderence(sp) on his fun and why would that be unless his fun includes activities with otther females that you wouldn't approve of

remember, tho, that I don't know either of you. just interpreting from what you've said. I'm just some chick on the internet

 

DON'T CALL HIM.-that's gonna make him want you 100 times less after how he has treated you

Get the book 'The Rules' and read it and don't date again until you finish the damn book. It may seem silly and old fashioned but it's a really good way to weed out the unworthy ones and make the worthy ones adore you.

 

I would but I'd play it cool. Give him a chance to correct himself. I'd call his friend (no anger) and ask for him. Then I'd tell him I'm bored and ask him to scoop me up. If he said no without good (or believable) reason, I'd make him wish he had never met me...but then again, I'm considered evil in most states.

 

Why let the man enjoy his night? Plus, if she doesn't call he can pretend that he didn't even know that she wanted to come over..and then try to use that to twist things around on her tommorrow. You know man-tactics. Calling him is the only way to make her stand valid tommorrrow

 

Well I called and his friends phone is off. I wish I could just fall asleep but im so angry i don't see that happening.

 

I'm not sure I agree with this. She could very well be his 'main chick' and have zero desire for any of these other girls at the party. I for a very long time dated a girl who simply was a drag to party with. She never wanted to very much to begin with and when she did, she'd usually want to leave after a short time being there. So, I had a tendency to leave her behind on occasion when I wanted to just party and not have to worry about someone else's agenda. Perhaps that selfish on my part, but I have needs and desires too and back then a lot and now to a lesser extent, I like to go out and party, so if I'm with someone that doesn't like to, then they're just going to have to deal with me going without them if they don't want to go and wont 'allow' me to have my fun if they come along. Mind you with this particular girl I am speaking of, I spent pretty much five nights a week with just her and I alone as she liked it for the better part of eight years.
I really wasn't looking for anyone else at all, just wanted to have fun.

So, perhaps you Peace Attack (I don't know you, hence the perhaps) are like my ex or maybe like Missfontella says, he's just out looking for another piece of ass.

Either way, the big thing to be pissed about is him being dishonest to you - not the fact that he's out partying with other people.


the lying is what would bother me most. Open, honest communication is essential for a relationship and from this sounds like, it seems to be lacking in your relationship. Whether its your fault or his I can't judge

Hope things work out for you either way

 

I can see your point. I even considered it but I guess I figure there is a difference between partying and HAVING the party. I know that I don't party with my man but if I threw a party, he'd be there (and drunk as hell, I might add)

 

because he's gonna be in agony in a couple of days when he hasn't heard from her or he won't care and she can weed him out and move on, either way it's a win-win for her. Guys hate being ignored even if they're not that into a girl...she can ignore him and all of a sudden he'll be into her. It's not their fault it's how they're wired and it's not evil on our part to beat them at their own game, it's smart

 

What's the subtitle of the book 'The Game Players Guide to Sex, Love and the Universe'?

Everyone is different. Some people have different buttons either way. In the world of love, I would think that going by 'The Book' is a recipe for disaster for most people. I haven't read it, but it sounds to me like its one of those books that stereotypes behaviors.

Everyone is different. Missfontella suggested he was looking to go after other women. I suggested in my own personal experience that my motives for going out alone would be totally different than that when considering the girl I was talking about.

I still think the key is both partners being themselves and honestly communicating their own needs both as individuals and as a couple. If the individual needs are respected and the relationship needs line up, then things will work themselves out.

 

See to me I see no difference between going to a party and having a party. If I had the party and she was invited, she'd want me to stop partying and spend time alone with her and get all bitchy at me when I didn't want to do that. Like I said, I spent five nights a week alone with her, but sometimes I wanted to party and to be honest, 75% of the time I'd invite her and half of those she'd accept and then try and pry me away from the party. I tried to explain to her that I had my own needs as an individual sometimes and if she was going to come along, she needed to respect those, otherwise, I would rather do my thing on my own.

 

Hmmm....so....a guy rent's a beach house and some friends help him set the place up. Girlfriend finds out there's a party happening and there are girls there. The conclusion? Said boyfriend is an asshole, no questions asked.


Has anyone considered that the dude's friends found this a REAL GOOD EXCUSE to invite some people over and have a little pow-wow? You know..."Dude!! We're helpin' (insert name here) move into his fucking beach house! Call EVERYONE YOU KNOW and pick up some beer!! Woohoo!!!!!"

Can't anyone else see that happening?

Cut the poor fucker some slack until we you have hard facts, darlin'.

 

Peace, from reading some of your previous posts, this guy is a complete douche and you deserve so much better. He's cheated on you before, what's to say it won't continue? As hard as it is to let go of someone you really care about, he knows he can do it and you'll just take him back. Call his friend's phone, by all means, talk to him, and inform him that you are through with it. You guys have been breaking up and getting back together and continuing that on and off, so make this the final goodbye. I'm sorry to hear you got stuck with such a dick.