I'm Late....

Like really late. And lately I have been feeling sick every morning, although I never throw up and I feel better once I eat a little something. Although Sunday I did have the dry heaves, which almost made me pass out.

Zach and I are not ready for this and while we are think of kids we weren't planning to have them quite yet. What should I tell him? He doesn't even know what's going on. Isn't it odd how a man can live with you and have no idea what's going on?

 

yeah, that is weird...Brian knew exactly when my period was coming, knew to expect it, and started seeing symptoms when I did...

You're just going to have to talk to him *hugs* very difficult, I know...I'm right there in this situation as well...just do what your heart tells you...

 

You have to tell him, I know it may be difficult, especially when you are hoping that he would initiate it in the first place, but don't be frustrated with that, many men and people in general just don't see things sometimes as they are staring them in the face, different ways to perceive, ya know. I do wish you luck and more importantly peace, don't freak out or get upset and frustrated, if it takes you a while to get to that place, don't say anything before you do, it will seriously affect your mood if you are already on the edge and go into such a conversation as the one you need to have. I'm sure everything will be fine.

 

Update?

 

You have to talk to him, honey. It's his baby, too. Of if you decide you don't want to continue, it really should be discussed. (The only dilema is if YOU want to terminate, and you are afraid he won't want you to, or the other way around. Then, it gets more difficult.)

My dh, with every pregnancy always said, first, "What do you want to do? Do you want this?" My answer was always YES, but he reserved his feelings until after I told him mine. He always said it wasn't him who was going through the pregnancy, so he didn't want to say anything until I said I wanted it.

VNG, are you not telling him because you might want to terminate? This is up to you, but it would be good to discuss it with him.

Blessings and prayers for your making the choice that is best for you.

Maggie

 

No, I'm not telling him because he will NOT be happy.

Any advice on how to get rid of the nausea. I haven't actually thrown-up, but I can't eat. Ugh.

 

First of all ((((hugs)))). Have you decided what you are going to do? I know how hard it is-having gone through two unplanned pregnancies. But, I have always found that the burden is lessened if you share the news with your partner. But, that's just MHO.

 

First HippyFreek then you. Must be the fluoride in the drinking water.

It's not HIS baby. It's YOURS.
It's only HIS if you wish to carry it to term and have him involved.

 

Flouride in the drinking water? really? Wow...i thought you got pregnant because you forgot to put an aspirin in your coke bottle before a date!

 

Really?

I love these kinds of urban legends and myths.

 

so do I! I think they're funny. My gramma told me that one. Or my mom. Not that any of us believed it.

My pregnancy is just really poor planning...Okay....no planning at all..

 

Er.... that's an understatement.

Don't feel too bad - 90% of the world's population are caused by accidents.

 

vinceneilsgirl: Are you sure you are pregnant? Did you get tested and everything? Because awhile back my best friend had the same problem, had all the same symptoms and whatnot, and she didn't turn out to be pregnant. And I think she may have imagined some of it because she was worried- the mind has been known to do that. I would get tested first before I do anything.

 

both my pregnacies were planned. but dave knew my cycles perfectly, better than i did, thankfully. he's very handy that way. shit like that was never my forte. but i just can't for the life of me imagine not discussing it, unless he was violent or something.

 

If he was violent why in hell would you sleep with him?

 

well, exactly, though i didn't state that part. people do crazy shit sometimes, though.

 

I mean in general, kc.

 

i don't know why anyone would choose a violent lover. so i couldn't answer that. but i know some do.

 

no, no, no! you get pregnant by sharing a toothbrush

 

oh! well....in that case....still doesn't explain it!

Must be baby germs in the air...