And didn't tell you about it and you found out a year later. How would you react? Would you think you didn't give enough attention to your child, would you criticize them or offer support? I don't have children, but I would be very disappointed in myself as a parent, and then I'd go beat the crap out of the boyfriend.
I'd probably just support her. Sure, I'd be kinda pissed at first but making that decision isn't exactly easy. And getting over it would be even harder I'd imagine, so of course she wouldn't want to start a whole new thing with parents being all angry and whatever. I'd at least be happy she made the decision she thought was best. As for the boyfriend, it took two to make the baby...
First off I would be grateful that she had access to a SAFE & LEGAL abortive procedure, and then I'd feel sad that she chose not to access me as a support. It would be a realization that she is her own person, separate from me after all.Go figure. (I don't have a daughter, yet anyway)
i would have an open relationship with my daughter and would hope that she would be comfortable enough to talk to me about it first. in the end it is her choice and i would support her no matter what.i would want her to make a decision that she feels is best for her. i have been in a similar situation and know how scary it can be, especially if you have no one to talk to about it
This^ And I would be glad that she had access to a safe and legal termination. As for the boyfriend. Whatever.... takes two. The only way I would have a problem is if he refused to assist with the financial costs providing he was even asked.
If my daughter aborted the kid and didn't tell me about it, I'd be pissed! As the father of both, I have a right to have a voice in the decision.
I'd figure it was her life - her decision ; and that she probably did not say anything so that she would not get static from me and worries that I might go postal and try to beat up the boyfriend. If asked I would tell her I support her right to make her own choices and that she is the one that has to live with them....so look down the road and see if you think you can stay happy with your choices.....but above all I support free will.
I'd mourn the loss of my potential grandbaby, however, I would still be supportive of my daughter. Hopefully my daughter will feel at ease enough with me that if something like that would never happen, that she would come to me immediately. I would, however, have a problem with her having an abortion if she was using it as a form of birth control, meaning, she had a tendency to repeatedly be irresponsible and sought pregnancy termination on a more than once basis. But all in all, if my daughter is an adult, it's really none of my business. I may not particularly care for her choice, but I'm going to love and support her regardless.
