What's wrong with her masturbating? Just ask the question... you can't have a good relationship if you can't even ask each other such an incredibly simple question. If you can't talk about sex, how can you have sex?
The fact that ig was behind my back when I had just said we can ha e sex and that she wont let me touch hed. Thats whats wrong with it
Sounds like you've got bigger problems than just an inability to talk. Sorry - you need to talk - about everything - that's one of the points of being in a relationship!