If you don't deal with anger...

what does it manifest it's self as?

Meaning another emotion, feeling, or the like? Or behavior really...

I'm trying to figure out my anger..


I try to be mature and polite and hold back and sometimes I think I shouldn't have held back...

 

You can express anger and deal with the feeling without necessarily getting into a fight.

 

Tis what I'm learning. The product of that is I'm not fucked with anymore.
But I don't know if it's enough.


I want to hurt those who hurt me. Am I bad?

 

There is a lot here.

But without details it's hard.

It's common to externalize anger at oneself. That's what I get from the sentence in bold.

It's also easy to get hurt when we have self-worth problems to begin with.

 

Dude. I could write a book.

Let's just say I was abused n a good girl... in quote though im too drunk/lazy.. my first best friend AND boyfriend for four years, killed himself... I was also homeless and I dealt with a lot of addicts that fucked me up the ass for money that I got cause a car accident... I was niave n young...

Got married... it got worse...got fat....was told i was fat n ugly. All my friends that KNOW me tell me I'm strong. But people don't know.. I'm not strong..I'm weak as fuck because every day I've felt like dying... didn't know how to deal with grief, was too weak to kill myself... AND what is worse???????!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I CANT hurt other people. Im SUCH a pacifist, it's ridiculous. I wish I didn't understand those who hurt me so I could fuck them UP. BUT instead I just kill myself slowly.

I'm weak and everyone who thought I was strong is wrong.

 

Sounds like your a victim of perception. You worry more about how others view you rather than worrying about yourself and how you want to feel about you.

 

Held in anger will manifest into internal gas and you don't want that. Those around you don't want that either. Just hit someone that's all it's better that way.

Peace

 

for me, generally anger manifests itself as anger, and sadness also tends to manifest itself as anger.

not that i go around yelling at everyone and starting fights; my anger usually just consists of myself withdrawing and being silent, maybe punching a couple walls or something

 

long rants on time, space and politics, in places like this.

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My anger, if not dealt with appropriately, usually manifests itself as a humongous hangover.

 

It depends what the angers about. If you're getting angry about a job you didn't get or at your boy losing american idol, it's better just to let it go.

If it's something with a person where you continue to ignore the problems. The problems don't go away. They just manifest themselves, and then you start blowing up over crazy little shit. The little shit isn't the problem.

 

Usually if I don't deal with anger then it will result in even more anger and frustration. If there is an issue, I won't normally hold back. I'll confront the issue head-on though. But if for some reason I cannot, I'll just take it out on the punching bag.

 

Here is a secret...I've never understood any of themnax's post!

Lucky have you ever gone to therapy to try an deal with any of these issues? Therapy isn't a bad place. I'm actually going to therapy now and I see a psychiatrist.

I know you do party a lot. I'm sure most of it is to mask the feelings you have and the depression/anger. It's not going to make it go away. It's actually going to manifest itself into something worse and then the anger depression gets worse.

Let that anger out but then let it go. Try to find forgiveness and maybe your healing will begin. I am sorry if I sound like I am preaching but this has worked for me in a lot of areas. I don't want to see you self destruct. You have more to offer than that. You're just in a bad place right now.

Look at your picture of you sitting at the beach. You look like you were having a blast. Hold on to what makes you smile.

 

I tell people that if I don't tell you I'm sad and we're arguing and I cry...

RUN!

 

Oh, word. And interesting.




I seriously need to learn to be ANGRY so I don't feel like shit.

 

I typically just hate on myself.

And kill myself slowly

Cause I'm toooooo loving, understanding and forgiving to anyone but myself.

It's sick and I hate it.

 

I've tried psychotherapy but I'm shy and social anxious and I can open up but not well to strangers and I'm so used to just getting a label n pills. Haha.
Maybe I should find a GOOD psychologist though.

Peanuts, I'm sorry if you ever thought I didn't like you. You speak a lot of truth and thanks about the beach pictures... I wish I could have an ocean with me always...

I'm out soon to self destruct...

 

yeah i totally dont even deal in small anger. or not even anger but you know...

the big stuff i try to forgive, no i do forgive but i tell myself i let it go and i dont...

 

For me it manifests in physical illness. I am going back to therapy, just got approved for 20 sessions.
For me realizing the more I put into life the more I get out is key. I get sooo lazy sometimes, feel too lazy to work on myself, relationships or even clean up after myself. I've worked really hard recently to remember the more I put in the more I will get out. It's worked, but I still feel down and I feel physical pain from my past because emotional pain is too much to deal with. Not a day goes by that I don't take ib profin, excedrin migraine or some homeade poppy pod concoction to get rid of a sore throat or headache.
Peanuts was telling me about a non-narcotic pain reliver. I think I may make a doctor's appoitment for it.
Long story short...fake it till ya make it and give life your best effort. God (or whatever higher power you belive in) wants nothing more for us than to live to our full potential and serve others, while still being self-therapuatic as oppossed to self-serving.
Lots of hugs and love,
-Lynsey

 

You rock! I wish I had an older sister like you or young hip aunt.