I would like some opinions on my situation...

I have been in a relationship with my g/f for a year and almost 3 months now. I have had a few issues with our relationship and I don't know if they are as bad as I see them as or if it is just me blowing things up. But I am going to explain everything exactly how they are, with no exaggerations.

Everything was good for a good while and then one day, I randomly got a Friend request on FB, from my little brothers friend(it was a girl) I didn't know her, but I just accepted it. She saw that I added this girl(called me after she found out) and was like "who is this?" And I said "One of my little brothers friends." And she made a big deal and made me delete her. Problem?

Later on, like a month goes by and one of MY friends whom of which was a girl added me on FB, So I accepted it. My girlfriend found out, and called me and the same thing happened, She was like "why would you add her?" "You don't see me adding guys?" And made me delete my own friend. Problem?

So like 2 weeks later her friend(whom she met at camp a few years back) was going into the marines. I have never met the kid, but I only heard good things. And she wanted to go say bye to him and stuff before he left, and she was like "Hey do you want to go up with me to see him?" It was like a 2 hour drive and I said "No, I don't know him and it isn't worth the drive, But you don't need me to go." So she was like "well I am not going without you, I am not allowed, my mom won't like it, so I just won't go." So she started to bug me and bug me all day and eventually, I said "Ok I will go with you." Literally 30 seconds after that she says "You know what, I would feel uncomfortable if you went, I'd rather you not go." ...wtf? I got kind of curious about why it was such a big deal that I got and then once I said I would she said it would be uncomfortable... It made me get jealous or w/e you want to call it. SO She ended up going by herself... But yet she made a big deal out of it on how she couldn't... I was pissed but, said you can do whatever you want, I can't stop you. But I am not gonna like it. Problem?

So few months later, her and her girlfriend get into a HUGE arguement and start verbally arguing and her friend calls her a cheater and says some stuff about how I(as in me) deserve better. I got kind of puzzled, but it made me think about how they both went up to a mall 2 hours away, near where that kid lived. And I was uneasy about it but kept my mouth shut, cause I was thinking that I probably am just being stupid and making dumb ideas up in my head. Well, later on that day, we go to confront her friend and she kept calling my gf a whore and a cheater.(my gf is a virgin) But her friend came saying this stuff. So I was trying to stop the argument and her friend said something about some kid she met at camp... And I was like... "oh shit" So during their argument, I asked her friend, What kid at camp? She said some guy who was in the marines that was out on leave for a little. I said, what was his name? She didn't know but I gave her 3 names to pick out of to see if she was full of shit, or if she was legit. Sure enough right when I said his name, She was like "Yeah, that is him" So I got the whole story out of both of them, I guess she had planned to go see him with her girlfriend while he was on leave... Knowing that I had a problem with her going to see him.(after the first time I was really bothered and couldn't get over it, took me awhile) Anyways, they both said the same story, saying he wasn't there, and he couldn't make it. I believe this to be true, cuz they had some vicious words getting thrown around, but they both kept to the same story on this. So basically, she made plans to go see him and didn't tell me, knowing I had a problem with it. But she claimed that she knew he couldn't make it, before she went, that is why she didn't tell me. Problem? (I found all this out on our 1 year)


Well this has been a problem since before the last problem, but I got a job at a smoothie place. And I work with girls, most of which guys would find attractive. Now my gf before I even got the job, gave me some rules. Not exchanging numbers, no facebook adding, no breaks togethers. Bunch of stuff like that. So the smoothie place is in the mall here and my gf also works in the mall, so I noticed that once I started working.. whenever my gf was working there too, she would walk by my food place like 3 times per time I was working the same time as her. Now I know her schedule when she works, I have hung around the mall a lot and I know she gets 1 break, And she never walks that side of the food court, I have met her for lunch or dinner and we never take that side, she always goes the other way. So she would walk by a lot. And she would also stop and say hi, that is normal but, she would only say hi if I was talking to one of the girls that I work with. And if we were laughing she would like whisper to me... "Whats so funny? Why are you guys laughing? I don't like it" And she would get all hissy. Now I been working there for like 4 months and she still has a problem with everyone, except one girl, who I can talk to without question. But if I speak with anyone else and she sees it she freaks out. Problem?

What are some opinions? I need a different point of view to see if I am seeing right...

 

get rid of that control freak and find a new girl

 

Oh my god, I could barely get through that without tearing my hair out in sheer frustration for you. Dump her! Get rid of her! Trust me, control freaks are no good. There are plenty of girls out there who'd go out with you and let you hang out with and talk to other girls without jealousy. Jealous bitches are evil, man, you don't want to get trapped in any worse than you already are. You've made it last a year which means you can do it again with someone who's not a psycho. Jesus Christ, kiddo, I want to come punch this bitch in the face personally on your behalf.

 

Insecurity issue...?

 

i agree, your G/F is a control freak man you gotta move on and find someone better, sorry to say

 

dude I stopped reading after the first couple of paragraphs..

Your girlfriend wont let you accept other women as friends?? thats not normal lol...

You sound kinda young, get rid of this girl now..

 

I agree about her being a control freak.Also, this all makes me suspect more that she isn't trustworthy, because you haven't done anything to raise suspicion but she doesn't trust you, and the most distrustful people are usually so because they're worried you are as untrustworthy as them. You're young and there are lots of girls in the world, I know it's hard but you should break it off, trust issues this early on aren't going to grow into anything good with time.

 

I stopped reading after the second paragraph. Get out, get the fuck out now! I've been through this same exact thing - this girl has issues, BIG ISSUES. Just like you, I tried to rationalize it at first and it only gets worse. It's only a matter of time before she hacks into your email - if she hasn't already. You need to check your computer for a keylogger - do it as soon as you read this. This will only get worse and there is nothing you will ever be able to do to change the way this girl thinks. You see people like this project their own shady behavior on other people - so they're suspicious as hell - no suspicious isn't word - Paranoid! Their biggest fear is that they will get played as badly or worse than they play other people. It's call psychopathy.

Oh I know - she's good in bed isn't she? It's not worth it - GET OUT! If you care about preserving your mental health and your soul - drop her. Don't - I repeat DO NOT try to discuss it with her - she will pull you right back in. Send her a text - tell her you're done with her and DON'T ANSWER THE PHONE WHEN SHE CALLS - DON'T EVEN REPLY TO HER TEXTS. She knows exactly what she's doing and what she wants from you - which is basically an emotional slave. This person doesn't feel love the way you and I understand it. Get it? She's a predator and she's dangerous. These people prey on nice guys/girls. They see it as a weakness that they can exploit.

 

Run away! Now!

 

You said you didn't read the whole thing. They haven't had sex, she is (or at least he believes she is) a virgin.

 

Ditch The Bitch...:2thumbsup:

Problem Solved....



Cheers Glen.

 

Dude...dump this drama queen slut out of your life

cut your losses

fuck her GF for good measure

 

dude i didnt have to read the whole thing.

she's jealous, insecure, and cheating on you.

 

as a matter of fact, send her a screen shot with our responses since she likes getting in your internet business so much.

 

PLEASE PLEASE get RID of her. trust me girls like this will be pain in the ass for you in the long run. besides she cheated on you. shes treating u like a dog

 

Yep.
She's a control freak, hypocritical, lier, cheater.
Get rid of her and get together w/ her friend.

 

She is bad news. You have to learn that even when you have no proof, someone with that much drama surrounding her is up to something. If you give people like this the benefit of the doubt she will take it and fuck your world up and laugh at you for being the kind of guy who is willing to compromise and tries to be understanding.

Oh and when you break up with her and she turns on the water works and plays on your emotions and acts hurt...don't buy it.

 

That's one way I'm worried it would go, the other is that she might turn total psycho bitch, spread rumors, mess with his friends, stock him and every thing else that psycho bitches do.

 

It's amazing, ToFun, I really don't think I've ever seen a thread that's gone into the second page and every single response is the same. I really hope you do the right thing here. And keep posting at the forums, dammit, no more of this disappearing for months at a time.

 

That's a good point.
He really might have a potential ally in the gfs friend.
So it might not be a bad idea to speak w/ the friend before breaking up w/ the gf and ask the friend if she would help him if the bitch goes psycho.