I have to write it down on paper and speak it "no feelings, no feelings" do you have any advice on how to break it down? It is truly bugging me. can anyone give me any advice of what rules to apply? maybe only sex once a week...? no talking after ten mins. after? only kissing like during an orgasm and foreplay? i can only say i love them if it's during orgasm? Any advice would be much apprieciatted. k. thanks. peace, love and trendy open relationships. Love, Lucky.
I mean do I tell them "no feelings" or I shall kill you? Or maybe... hmmm i'm having a hard time putting my small brain around this... :tapsfoot: thinking...ummmm maybe the best thing would be...to just say "this is just sex. do not think there is anything else and do not DARE step" i guess honesty is the best step. keep it simple stupid, right?
"I just want to remain friends, but have a sexual relationship" aka fuck buddys. sometimes, it'll work out just fine. best friends with benefits, but other times, one of you will end up starting to fall for the other, because sex is the way of showing your love to another, making love. so if you want it to work.... are you more afraid of the man falling for you, or you falling for the man? cus that makes a big difference. or even either one? probably the best is to make sure you make the grounds on what you want out of the relationship, and what he thinks too. both agree on it. and if it gets wierd etc, you guys can talk about it. and make a change.
emotionless fuckbuddery rarely works out well. usually screws both people up at leas ta little for a while, from my experiences why not set aside a little money for some new toys? with those you get the added benefit of no stds (unless you share your toys)
But saying I just want to remain friends kinda... I don't know. I don't think I can handle this. I need set rules. Like RULES.. like... no kissing during sex? Is that too harsh? No cuddling? No talking on Wednesdays? I need HUGE relationship advice.
i think the only way to know for sure is through experimentation... so who here loves learning as much as i do?
maybe i should write on a piece of paper and copy it for me and him... maybe require signatures. I CAN'T just go with the flow with this. I am not intuitive enough to know when to get out via feelings so it HAS to be set out with rules. Fuck paper. I want posterboard, colorful markers and maybe some legal thing? I don't know. HELP ME!
I do NOT love learning. I love rules that are spoken and written down. Fuck learning and letting things go. I need it spelled out for me.
i dont know what kind of rules, no kissing during sex.... thats what julia roberts did to not get close to the guys on "pretty woman". i dont know. cuddling, i find that makes me very attatched, i would rule out cuddling, definately.
i just dont want to get things misconstued? maybe we can just masturbate n not touch or will it seem too intimate ... eck. im not sure. i think the sex only on tuesdays or once a week and no kissing or talking after might be best? im so confused.
hey... my ass might be a lot of things but it is not smart. i wish it had a brain...twould be smarties