I think my boyfriend is gay...

OK, maybe not, but it certainly makes me wonder...

We have had sex twice in the last month, and he's been sleeping in the same bed with me. I mean, check out my gallery, I'm not exacty a troll...although I'm also not a supermodel. I just don't get how a guy who sleeps in the same bed as a girl, who just happens to sleep naked, doesn't try and get some.

I've tried everything. I touch him, or lick his ear...he'll move my hand away or move away and tell me to stop. I dress sexy and he doesn't even bat an eye. I wear lingerie and I don't even get a second look. It's frustrating! And it's not like he has a stressful life...he works under forty hours a week at a job a monkey could do.

I love sex. If it was possible, I'd have sex twenty four hours a day. I'm very attracted to him, but it doesn't seem as if he's attracted to me.

I've brought it to his attention a few times, but not too often cuz I don't want to seem like Im nagging him about it. I just don't know how much longer I can take this!

So my question is...what do you think is up with that? The only things I can think of is that he's gay or he's cheating on me with someone else. *sigh* What do you propose I do now?

 

Ask him. If he is gay, he is probably just using to hide it, wich his terrible.

 

I don't think he's gay, really. I mean, he's one of those manly men. Not that manly men can't be gay...geez, I don't want to stick my foot in my mouth here.

He has one friend who's gay, and I've seen "Tinkerbell" (his nickname for his gay friend) hitting on him...and he hates it. So, I don't think he's really gay

 

Maybe he just doesn't like you very much.

I'm just trying to toss out some extra possibilities. Most women get annoyed if their guy is obsessed with fucking, so count yrself lucky. Maybe he does like fucking as much as you do. Maybe he has a venereal disease. Of all the wild conclusions you've come to, this is a shit one.

If he does turn out to be gay though, don't be a **** about it.

 

Damn. Thas some harshness right there. In any case, I don't see why he wouldn't wanna have sex with you. Yer damn sexy, an I can say from experiance that us guys are horny all the time. Maybe he's sex-a-phobic or somethin.

 

Maybe you should try asking him why he doesn't want to be intimate with you very often? Getting a firm answer is a lot better than speculating... the possibilities will just get worse and worse in your mind (well, ok, they would for me, heh)

 

Thing is, I have. And he says: "Baby, I love you, and I AM attracted to you. I just don't want our relationship based on sex."

I don't know what that means in guy terms. They never say what they mean.

 

That intrigued me actually: she said she'd "brought it to his attention" (titter [/schoolgirl] ), but didn't say what his response was. Either she forgot to post it, forgot to ask him, or just didn't care.

 

OK, missed this bit. In this guy's terms, that means "Shit, I've just noticed I'm going out with the girl! How the fuck did that happen?!"

He's either a saint among men or a weird neuro-mutant. Either way, you could get good money for him.

 

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA....that made me laugh.

 

I don't think he's gay, maybe he's just nervous??? And if he is gay ask for a threesome, that's what I would do lol you will both enjoy that (if in fact he is gay)....by the way you are a very pretty girl I don't see any reason why he wouldn't want to do stuff, just ask him what's wrong.

 

It is possible that he just has a low sex drive... One of my ex-grilfriends had this same problem with her boy, said she was worried about getting carple-tunnel syndrom from masturbating so much

 

I've gone through patches of feeling like a total slut and when I've been with a guy all I've wanted to do is just snuggle up with him. It makes sense to me, but I guess if he doesn't know the backstory it'd seem odd to him.

 

So what do I do about it? I can't stand the thought of cheating on him simply to satisfy my sexual needs...but I also can't spend the rest of my days with him masturbating...

 

shit after looking at your pictures, especialy the boobie one.. he must be ill or gay my hands would be everywere,

 

I want to say, that you are one of the prettiest women in these forums. You look really good, in and out of your clothes (especially out ). How he can sleep in the same bed with you naked, and not want to touch you all over is something I personally don't understand.

What do you know about his sex life before he was with you ? Has he always had a low amount of drive or was he more of a typical male (sex fiend) before he was with you ? And has it always been this way with him or was he more interested in intimacy with you in the past ?

 

Maybe you should play a little more 'hard to get'? Some guys love the hunt and loose interest if it's in their face all the time (no pun intended) I mean.. he must know you're quite desperate for some sex by now.. start playing like you don't care at all.. buy a vibrator or whatever.. make him want you

 

You now know what it's like to be a straight man. Kinda weird; did you dump some guy who was into witchcraft or something? Sounds like a beautifully ironic curse in action!

The only answer you should get is: wait. Guys have been waiting for girls for centuries, I'm sure you can handle it for a few months.

Don't try and get him in the mood, you'll only embarass yrself and others.

 

I appreciate all of the nice comments, I really really do. Sometimes it's nice to hear them because I don't hear them from someone that should shower me with them...

Sex life before me...well, when we first met (mind you, this is ONLY three months ago!) he was saying how he'd have sex anytime, anywhere, with someone like me.

We waited (a whole!) two weeks before we ever got intimate. Since then, I probably can count on my hands and toes how many times we've been intimate. I have a feelling he threw me a line of bullshit at the beginning.

He drinks a lot sometimes, could that be why?

 

I can't do it. I can't be someone that I'm not. I'm a sexual being, I can't pretend to be anything else. If i have to do that to get his attention, well, that's pretty sad. I mean, come on guys, wouldn't you want a nice looking girl trying to get in YOUR pants???