I need some advice/cheering up.

So everything has been going good between me and my boyfriend/friend with benefits?. Then today I called him to ask him something about pleading guilty/not guilty to my citation and before I hung up he said "Wait, We have to talk later, so when you're not busy, let me know." I knew it had to be something bad.
So I called him about a half hour ago, and he basically said that he didn't think this summer was gonna work out (he lives about an hour and a half away from me). He said he doesn't want to hold me back if I find another guy and doesn't want to lead me on to think this summer we'll have a relationship.
He also said he has a lot of shit on his mind (he just got out of a really bad relationship last summer, I guess, and he's not over it yet), and he doesn't think another relationship is gonna help.

I'm kind of scared that he's going to hook up w/ his ex again or some shit, and he knows it, that's why he's telling me to go and do MY own thing. But I might just be really paranoid.

But wtf, I'm really pissed off. We hung out every single day for the past 8 months and it's so fucking hard to hear him say that we practically don't have anything. I need some cheering up.. or some advice. I'm pretty crushed at the moment.

 

Awww, I am sorry. :hug:

 

Thank ya, Nate!

 

You should get a better man, eh em. haha. No seriously, it sounds like he still likes his old g/f and you were the next best thing while he was away from her? You deserve much much better.

 

Lol, yeah Nate, I know.. you're the Prince Charming. lol. But I know what you mean, and that's why I think he's going to go back to her for the summer. But shit, we spent A LOT of time together, and even he said he liked me a lot and blah blah blah. I just don't understand how something like that could go to shit.

 

Sounds like he was using you for those "benefits", kick him in the nads, slap him, and tell him to fuck off.

 

Lol, I really do feel like punching him in the face right now.. too bad he's too far away.

 

I don't know you, I don't know your values. But let me tell you this

I dated a girl for 6 months, and we hung out everyday, and believe me I had fallen DEEP for this girl.

After 6 months, things lost their spark, and I found myself going back to my ex.

I'm not sure if it was because things lost their spark, or if it was because of other things. Idk.

But main point is, don't take it personal. I'm sure he has his reasons, and even though they might not be something you would consider a good reason, he has his reasons none the less.

Don't ever hope for to much. I made that mistake way to many times, just hope for a decent guy, who will treat you right. I'm sure he will come, wandering into your life. When he does, you will ask him "Where have you been". lol

 

Thanks, I need some guy advice.
I'm not for sure yet if he's going to go back to his ex, and I'm HOPING that he won't. But you sound like you're in the same position he's in right now. I understand he has his reasons, and I'm sure they're good reasons to him, but damnit.. I'm a girl so I have to think the worst. lol

 

Right here. But I am MILES away. Damn. Haha, I am no help.

 

Yeah Nate's right. It sounds like he was taking you for granted. You deserve MUCH better. It won't be hard for you to find someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. I know you have feelings for this guy, but he's obviously an idiot to brush you off like that. I mean.....you're hot. Plus, you're cool as hell. I guess he just didn't realize how lucky he was.

 

LOL, yeah nate exactly
I'll never date again.. I have the worst boy luck in the WORLD. Guarenteed.

 

Well I've been trying to 'wander' into a few girl's lives.

Still very very very...very.....very single.

lol

 

Thanks Brian. He did say that he hopes we can start things up again when we get back to school because I'm "the chillest girl he knows" and I'm "cool as hell" but damnit, I don't care about when we get back to school! I care about what's happening right now.

 

It is just because you haven't come across me in person. Duh

 

Lol, yeah that's probably it

 

Track down his ex tell her that he is switching between you and her, and he won't have any girls.

 

haha! that's such a great idea, but i'm not even too sure yet if he's going back to her.. I just kind of have a feeling.. and my feelings are usually right!

 

He will rarely contact you, When he does it will be a short n' sweet convo.

 

you should have defined wether you were fuck buddies or in a relationship. you have different right in each situation. If you were his girlfriend, you are right to feel the way you do. if you were just fuck buddies, he had the right to walk away, no strings. it is very difficult for people to not get attached when they enter in a fwb situation and if you're not stong enough for it, you shouldnt make those kinds of arrangements. He sounds like he doesnt know what he wants, which is typical of a male, but more specifically a young male, and you shouldnt waste your time on him. decide what you want out a person before you end up in this situation again.