I like my best friend

It feels weird to even admit this over the internet, but I like my best friend. A lot. I've never been more attracted to a girl in my life. She always says it will happen eventually , but I don't know if this point in our relationship if she would be ready to have sex or date. I really feel conflicted on what to do, because on one hand I don't want to ruin our friendship, which is really important to me, but I feel like I can't keep this to myself any longer.

Any advice?

 

I went through the same situation with my best friend. We were super close and were friends from elementary school all the way through high school. We graduated together, did everything together. The summer after we graduated from high school I finally confessed my secret love for her...I was rejected and our friendship was never the same. But if she say's it will happen "eventually" maybe she is afraid to make the first move. I would sit down and be honest with her, you will both never be on the same page if you don't communicate. I'm glad I actually had the guts to confess my love to my old friend because if I didn't I would still be here today thinking "what if".

 

You don't even know how badly I would want to do that. But I would rather be best friends than be nothing at all, or have things be awkward between us.

 

That's true, but some of the best relationships start off as friendships.

 

I guess I have to pretty much decide if it's worth risking our whole friendship over then?

 

I went through the same thing with my best friend. We were best friends for 5 years and knew we loved each other but it was never right...then this past Nov, after my father passed, he was my strength and he stayed by my side through everything...and now we're together and couldn't be happier

 

Yes. And in my experience, if you're serious and think you have a chance, it is worth it. In my opinion, most of the best relationships start as friendships. Don't wait till she gets a boyfriend, or till time goes by and the opportunity has passed. You might find out later that she felt just the same, and that your life could have been different if one of you had just said something.

 

never go out with friends, unless it's a skanky friend. In which case that friend probably wont find awkward tension between you and her because she's probably allready used to fucking her friends.

 

Living with loss is much better than living with not knowing.

 

Been there, done that. Actually twice, and the second time was practically a marriage proposal. Of course, she turned me down both times. But guess what, we are still best friends, and we've been best friends for almost 15 years. Now she's married to a really awesome dude, and I'm totally happy for her.

I would express your feelings to her if I were you. And if she turned you down and your friendship was ruined, then she essentially was not your best friend after all. It you two fall in love, then great. If not, and you two remain best friends(like my best friend and myself), then great, too. But you wouldn't know any of this unless you actually let her know how you feel. There are risks involved here, yes. But such is life.

All the best to you.

 

ruin the friendship. seriously.

you'll never be happy being simply friends with her. the only way to move on is to fuck her or to not see her for about 2 years.

 

she said that it will happen eventually? meaning....? you've already talked to her about having a relationship?

i'd say go for it. there's nothing more frustrating than having blue balls for your friend. if she rejects you, she'll either retract from your friendship, or you will retract from your friendship, or it'll clear the air and you guys will be closer friends after you have gotten over it. or it will be the start of an amazing relationship. if she lets you hitting on her ruin your friendship then she isn't really that good of a friend anyway.

 

I look at the "it will happen eventually" statement two ways. She could have told you that to keep you on a hook and lead you on with no real intention of following through.

The more likely scenario is that she has not put you in the friend zone, she has feelings for you too, and just doesn't feel like the time is right. The only way you'll ever know is to talk to her about it.

Or don't talk to her about it, just kiss her.

 

That's true. I liked the way you just came out and said it "unless it's a skanky friend."

But how many people really want to have a good friend who is a skanky friend?

 

Does that actually ever work?

 

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I decided that I'm going to tell her, but when I feel the time is right.