i wanted to type this up last night, but i was too drunk and depressed to get out of bed i have been depressed for as long as i can remember, i keep it a secret i guess. in the past few years all iv wanted was a girlfriend, but to no avail. i dont know why i dont have to confidence to get one. these past few weeks i have been getting more and more depressed, to the point where i just laid in bed and skipped classes a few days ago cus i didnt feel like getting up. so for the past week i have been organizing this event, a campfire, out in the woods. i got a number of my friends to go, including this girl i like. i even paid for her alcohol cus i figured it would be easier if she had a buzz on. and what happens? she hooks up with my friend. i cannot tell you how horrible i felt last night. wanted to fucking die. now i just feel like im at rock bottom, destined to be this way forever and ever. im 20. i just want a girlfriend, thats all! i hate being lonely. people werent meant to live this way. im dead inside i didnt tell anyone i was upset last night, but a friend thought it was pretty obvious that i was depressed. he told me his philosophy-carpe diem-seize the day. i wish i could live like that, but im too scared. it would basically mean telling a girl i like her everytime i like one, rather than hoping and preying they come to me. i wish god would come down and tell me the way to run my life cus im so confused right now
Buddy, I'm 31 and having the same luck as you. I would rather have no woman in my life than one that lies and cheats--tells you she cares and wants you, then goes and fucks her ex's. I just want one that i can keep...for life. Stand by each other's side through thick and thin.
You can't just stand there and hope someone will come to you. Even buying someone booze isn't going to indicate to them that you like them. Doesn't mean you have to tell someone you like them everytime you're attracted, but just make the moves on someone. Comment on how nice they look, brush your hand against theirs, smile a lot, lean in for a kiss or ask for their number, SOMETHING. Standing ain't gonna cut it hon.
It is kind of hard sometimes, jhmurria, especially when your self-esteem is about 500 miles below sea level...
it's hard, but then what else is one to do? continue sitting idly by and do nothing? you've either gotta do something, or nothing. sure, it's hard, but if you refuse to try, then you're the only one to blame. if you think the girl is just going to pass you up anyway, then what have you got to lose? i know it's easier said than done, but you can do it! you don't have to go balls to the wall obvious or anything. i think ihmurria gave awesome advice. all girls are different; don't let a few lame ones shake your confidance.
that's an i, not a j hon I know it's hard. Hell, I still suck at doing it. But I realize that standing there and expecting people to just walk up to me isn't gonna work, and it would happen even less if I were male or trying to pick up a girl. Realization is the first step, then make a plan, the execute said plan. It doesn't always lead to results, but it's better than not trying, n'est pas?
I've always lived by the motto "If you do something you might fail. If you do nothing you WILL fail".
Yes she did, and I was not putting it down...I'm just really sick of getting fucked over, so my confidence level is pretty low right now.
yea, yea yea, your right. i KNOW in my HEAD it makes more sense to do something than to let it pass. i know this. doesnt mean i can act on this knowledge what really pissed me off was that my friend hooked up with her. my fucking god. nothing against him, he doesnt even know i like her. hes a good guy too. but fuck. that hurt.
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awww sweetie...sounds awful but trust me we all go through things like this at some point in our lives...and we all react in different ways you gotta get up and get moving...and im sure if you're diggin' on a lady and tell her she wont bite....just get over the fear otherwise someone might take that chance away from you you're young free and single get out there make loads of new friends (its so easy if you realise we're all human) hope it all works out xxx
