i dont know what to do about my g-ma

and family. My older brother asked me to watch my grandma for five days. I didnt think it meant give her a shower everyday and clean her bed (because she pees in her bed every night except for today) make her stop crying, telling her the same things over and over again. Meanwhile my older brother yells at me for not saving money. I told him i could watch her, but usually he gives me like 20 bucks for watching her when he needs to go out with his girlfriend or go shopping for grocieries. Today i the third day ive been watching her and she has good days and bad days.

He hasnt given me any money yet and i already have no gas, I am only working for 10 hours this week and i make 5 bucks an hour plus tips. if i didnt watch her i would of make 200 hundred dollars already. Its sad that im complaining about helping my grandma out. I feel really guilty but im not a nurse, just a grand child.

 

just wait till you're 95, and all your grand kids are bitching about wiping your ass...

 

Well yr grandma still has one up on me... I usually pee in two or three different beds a night.

On good nights, anyway.

 

i wont have grand kids, ill tell you what though, ill have dangle berries though, thats for sure

 

I'd never ever ever ever ever ever ever ever do that kind of 'taking care' shit. There's places for that.

 

my older brother knew her nurse was going to go on vacation like one month before she went. im just upset that did this instead of work. i need money, if not i would be fine helping my grandma.

 

here's some ideas for you.

http://www.hipforums.com/newforums/showpost.php?p=5002745&postcount=21

 

my brother said he wouldnt put her in a home for that exact reason. which is why he got her a personal nurse. shes really nice to my grandma but getting another personal nurse for one week, i mean this company looks into that kind of stuff. guess he just wanted to save a couple bucks or make me do this so feel guilty into saying no

 

im of the mind that they sacrificed for your parents, and for you...turnabout is fair play...and sticking them in a sterile "home" does NOT solve the fucking problem...out of sight out of mind i guess...what a horrible way to live out the last of your days...stuck in a place that is terribly alien and unfamiliar to everything that you've known...and not having the people that you love and love you taking care of you...nope...its just some bitchy nurse that doesnt give a shit...

 

^^I agree 100% with Jerry



When she sleeps.....whisper in her ear about making a will and giving everything to the young granddaughter who was so kind....

 

Get the fuck outta my face with that shit, I ain't wiping nobody's ass.

 

obviously,
does this include your own?

 

i dont want any of her will money. i dont deserve it at all. i just dont want to do this anymore. Im not a nurse for a reason. I learned how to wipe my own ass and a very young age and took care of myself when i was younger than most kids. i dont feel that bad not wanting to wipe her butt, but i would if she needed it. I just dont like doing this type of stuff for so long. 1

 

Nobody else's, excuse me

 

Fuck, I barely want to wipe my own ass.

Not even gonna lie.

 

thats better...

 

your in pennsylvania, they hava a program that you can get paid for watching your old grandma.
Call the hospice or services for the elderly..
My freind does this and get paid over $700.00 a month to watch his own mother.
You must apply for it. Keep accurate records and a time card. Its done through the State agencies.

 

i dont do it often, its just for this week. plus i dont have the proper training or education to be the best caretaker for my grandma. I rather have someone that knows the medication she is on and why she takes it and what makes her funtion the best

 

Yep you are correct,the name of it is:Home Community Base Service,(HCBS).
Good luck with your G-ma.