AHHH! I been with my b/f for almost 2 years...been with him since i was 18...we liev together and he is the sweetest ever. hwoever, off and on for the past 6 months ive been VERY unhappy in this relationship. i feel as if im tied down and that im too young to be in a long term relationship. everytime i try to break up with him, it doesnt happen...because he tells me all these nice things like how much he loves and how hes going to care about me, and how he only wants me..and nobody else. i beileve him. i know he means it. im just so bored n miss being single..even tho i fucking love him to death and i havent met a guy even half as good as him. the other night, i cheated on him. i didnt plan to. i mean i made out with some guy. i would never choose the guy i made out with last night over my b/f...but i just wanted to have fun and see how it is to be with other guys. but now i feel horriable. i know i shoudlnt have done it. my b/f is SO devoted to me. i dont know what to do now. tell him? ahhh. just break up with him? i dont know. i love him but sometimes not sure if i wanna be with him anymore. thanks so much.
Hi, Realize,you can't undo it,so why say anything unless you want him to feel bad, right? Just forget it.
not that cheating is justifiable, but you must realize that in any long term relationships the love or affection may appear to fizzles every now and then. Since you cheated you should let him go.
I don't know what I'd do if my girl cheated on me, I'd rather her dump me before it would ever happen. You should just break up, it will happen again.
if you've been unhappy with the state of affairs for the past six months, I doubt it will improve. it sounds like the relationship has gotten comfortable but boring... at least now that you cheated on him, the only "right" thing to do is break up. or tell him, and let him (hopefully) dump you.
you are unhappy with him anyways.... love isn't enough. A) dump him B) tell him if you wanted to do the most moral thing, you would do both but I say at least pick one, and if you do tell him, hope his ass isn't dumb enough to stay with you
I think that he deserves to know the truth. And don't listen to Duck, if he do stays with you he is not dumb or desperate. Long term relationships have lots of ups and downs. The thing that is happening to you is perfectly normal, but you should have talked to him about it. You know you love him, and there is no other guy who you would peak over him, so all you need is space and time off, and i know because i was feeling the same just a month ago. But i asked for a break (i beleve in breaks in relationships) and it did save my relationship, now it's wonderful. You did messed up a little bit, but you can save your relationship if you really want to. If you're honest and open and if you too understand each other well there is no reason not to work things out. He is going to be hurt, that's for sure, and you'll have to respect that. But if he undterstands your feelings he will get over it. And beleve me, you don't want to be with an other gyu, you just want some time for youself. And if you do get the break, do go messing around with other gyus, use the time just for yourself. A while ago a good friend of mine was in the same sitation as you. She cheated on him, she break up with him, and now se is messing around with every single guy in town. She got carried away by the freedom, and now she has the label "whore" and she acts like one, and people threat her as one. (I stoped comunicating with her because of that.) The decision is yours Good luck!
Shame on you!!! haha jk! I understand how u feel, @ 18 u haven't lived enough or had enough experiences. I think cheating is unforgivable but @ the same time I feel like am not ready for a long term relationship... why do u think I choose to remain single? Anyways, I think that u should tell him. The sooner the better... whatever happens, it's better to say the truth to ur partner at all times. Nothin' good comes outta liying.
you cheated, & your 'not sure if you want to be with him' well, what do you think? Let him go with love & respect, & so that he can love & respect you, too. Come to terms with your feelings, & make a clean break. Can I reccomend a book to you? its called "If the Buddah Dated". A lot of pain, or a lot of growth can come with dating. There's one part that says something like, you may find out that you are just one chapter in this person's book. Try to make it a good chapter! love to you both - no - all three of you.
I never said desperate. and yes, sometimes, it is better to forgive someone who cheated only she in no way deserves to be forgiven this is pretty much premeditated (maybe 'not quite' but it's up near there) she said it herself, she isn't ready for this sorta relationship
cheating is complicated (im only involved in totaly open relashionships now) I was with a guy who beat me, and when i tryed to dump him he wouldnt let me...so I started messing around with the person im in love with now. The situation is diffrent, but the guy needs to know. Im almost 20 and i feel to young to date thats why im just open and honest and dont get in relashionships.
i think anyone in a bad relationship should get a spine and address their issues with their partners. if you can't get a word in, blurt it out. don't go down the dipshit road by cheating.
